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The Herpes ABC's
The ABC's of Herpes is
about dealing with your diagnosis and getting on with Life!
A is for Acceptance.
It’s not just the first
letter of the Alphabet, it’s the first step. There is NO such thing as a
time machine that you can use to go back and change anything so accept
it and move forward. Along those same lines, WHO gave it to you is
irrelevant. Seeking revenge doesn’t hurt anyone but you so let it go.
B stands for
Becoming the kind of person that no one can live without. If you didn’t
like who you were before your diagnosis then CHANGE! If you've always
been in a relationship then maybe it's time to Be alone so you can learn
to love you before trying to Be happy Before you meet that special
person.
C stands for Create a list. List
every good quality that you have and ask your friends and family to add
to it. They don’t need to know ‘why’ … just do it! Remember, having
Herpes doesn't change all of these wonderful qualities that you possess.
Everybody has a degree of greatness. If you don't believe you are
wonderfully made then it might be time to see a Counselor.
D stands for Demand! Demand information …
whether it’s from a doctor, counselor or simply by researching it
online, learn. Ignorance is NOT bliss! Knowledge is power.
 Expect more from your
future partners. From now on, they don’t just have to be cute with a
pulse … now they have to have substance, too! The ones that don’t
accept you, consider it a God-send! Welcome to your new selection
process! Always remember you deserve the BEST!
 Find your serenity.
Perhaps you have a best friend, trusted doctor or even anonymous faces
on a website (us!) that you are comfortable talking to … find them!
Vent, cry, scream then, by all means, refer back to the letter A and
move on with your life.
G stands for Giggle. Do whatever
you like to do that makes you laugh. You cannot let this consume every
minute of your day. Even if you gotta fake it first, do it! The next
thing you know, it’s not fake laughter anymore. Have you ever heard the
saying - Fake It Til You Make It?
H-E-R-P-E-S spells
Herpes! Say it! You
can come up with all kinds of cutesy little names for it if it makes you
feel any better but don’t cling to those names forever. It is what it
is and nothing you name it will change that fact.
I stands for the
Internet. It’s there
for a reason and there is a wealth of information if you just learn to
find it. DON’T look at the pictures! They are ‘worse case scenarios’
and I’ve never known anyone that had outbreaks like that! Remember, if
it sounds too good to be true it probably is. To day, there is NO CURE
for herpes.
J stand for Just Shut Up and
LISTEN! Sounds cold, doesn’t it? You will come into contact with
people that have been living with this condition for many years and what
they tell you may make you say “Well, that’s easy for YOU to say!”.
Listen to them! Personally, I wasted WAY too many years feeling sorry
for myself when I could have been LIVING. We’ve ‘been there and we’ve
done that’ and if we can save you just a little pain with our wisdom,
then we’ve accomplished our mission.
K stands for Keep your spirits
up. If you’re in a relationship that’s not healthy or a job that’s not
fulfilling or you have friends that don’t complement you, you need to
figure out if it’s really worth it. You have all kinds of choices in
life and your most major ones are your attitude and the people YOU
CHOOSE to surround yourself with. Remember, YOU hold the keys to your
own happiness!
LIVE! - That's what L
stands for! The value of
your life is not determined by some skin condition. It’s also not
determined by someone’s willingness to accept you. Like yourself enough
to not stay in an unhealthy relationship simply because that person
accepted you in spite of herpes. You deserve better than that!
Make amends - that's
what M stands for. Do not
waste your time or energy blaming someone else. Maybe they didn’t tell
you, maybe they didn’t know, it doesn’t matter. What’s done is done and
all you have to do now is come to peace with it.
kNees … get on them.
If this is bigger than you, then ask God for help in dealing with it.
“If He brings you to it, He’ll bring you through it”.
O stands for Open communication.
DO NOT even think about having intimate relations with someone else
without giving them the option. If they don’t want to take the chance,
so be it. It is NOT the end of the world! They would have gotten in
the way of The One that God has planned for you.
P stands for Put things in
perspective. You DID NOT just get diagnosed with cancer or anything
else that’s going to kill you slowly. This is nothing more than a
minor, occasional irritation and shouldn’t treat it as if it's the end of the
world. Do not give herpes that kind of power over you!
Question what you
read. Not all websites are created equal and not all information is
true and accurate. If you read something that just doesn’t add up, ask
Questions, find answers but don’t just accept it as the gospel.
Realize your worth and
Respect yourself.
If you’re thinking “No one is ever going to want me again”, you’re
probably right. What I mean is that if you couldn’t realize your worth
as a person before your diagnosis, then you’re never going to realize
your worth now. Plug into yourself and if you don’t like what you see,
CHANGE IT. That seems to be the ongoing theme in this message but I
simply can’t stress it enough. Self improvement breeds confidence which
results in sex appeal.
 Stop wishing and
hoping that this is all a bad dream and you’ll wake up soon. Stop trying
to Sweep it under the rug. That is a
waste of time and energy. How unproductive to try and pretend that you
don't have Herpes. Stop crying about your diagnosis. It's ok to be upset
in the beginning but if you can't get over it within six months to one
year, it might be time to see a professional counselor.
Take time for
yourself. Stop worrying about what everyone else may think of you and
start learning more about who you are and what makes you happy. The presence of a significant other DOES
NOT define who YOU are as a person. Having Herpes does NOT define you
either. Learn to like yourself first THEN
worry what all the shallow people are thinking. Guess what? At that
point, you won’t care and really... you shouldn't care what other people
think anyway!
Understand the
virus. Know where it lives, what triggers it, how it’s transmitted,
everything! Never put someone at risk without their consent!
 V
stands for Victory. Who is
going to win the war? If you let herpes define who you are as a person,
I can tell you who won. Give herpes this battle but don’t let it win
the war. YOU HAVE WORTH!
 WORK! Get off your
woe-is-me butt and work towards having an understanding of your
diagnosis. No matter what avenue you have to take, nothing is given to
the person that can’t do anything except feel sorry for themselves.
X stands for eXercise
and eat right. A healthy body = a healthy immune system = fewer
outbreaks. It’s just as simple as that. This is your wake-up call to
dump the things that aren’t good for you anyway … excessive caffeine,
soda, junk food, fast food, and the list goes on. Let’s take for
example HSV1 – they don’t call outbreaks cold sores and fever blisters
for nothing. When your immune system is compromised, you WILL get
outbreaks so take the necessary steps to correct that.
 Yell into a pillow.
Go ahead. After two or three times you’ll realize how fruitless it is …
so is feeling sorry for yourself.
Z stands for Zazen.
In Buddhism, this is the practice of meditation. Find your ‘happy
place’ and GO THERE. There is a tremendous amount of power in positive
thinking and introspection.
REMEMBER: You can
never expect someone else to ‘okay’ with your diagnosis until YOU are.
DO NOT give this virus any more power over you than it already has!
*The ABC's of Herpes
was put together by our
H
Pal Jennifer. There were a few pieces here and there that were added
by our H Pal and website administrator
Angela aka: Yoshi2me. If one of
the letters of the alphabet means something to you and you really want
to add to what we've already put together, feel free and write and tell
us your idea. We might add it to this page! Thanks!
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