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The Sex Talk should be about STDS
Before Sex!
It's time to
start talking about STD's BEFORE you have sex. What are you guys afraid
of? You mean to tell me that you are willing to get naked and have sex
with somebody but you are not willing to talk about STD's with your
clothes on BEFORE you have sex? Come on people, let's start playing it
safer.
There are a couple of
things to keep in mind when you have that STD conversation BEFORE sex. A
person sometimes thinks they know their STD status when in reality they
don't. I know this because not everything that people should be tested
for is included in the routine STD testing process. You can find a
listing of things that aren't included over on my
Herpes Help
home page.
Take your partner aside and talk about this stuff.
Make a date to
go get tested together!! Why not? Ok, so below this
paragraph I am going to list conversations that people have had with
their partners before having sex with them. If you want to
share your
story or a quick comment
send those to
me.
I think
it's sexy smart to talk about STD's BEFORE you have sex, don't you? Wouldn't
you want to know if your partner had an STD? It does matter, does it
not? What advice would you give people about how to have the talk?
I won't
tell a prospective partner until I know, for sure, that there is a
chance for intimacy. Prior to that it's only my business. Usually
one can tell through talk, flirting, touching, feelings of passion
starting to ignite. If there is a chance, and I feel I can be
intimate with them, then it's time for "The Talk". 3 out of 5 have
responded with positive thoughts...said it was ok......!!! The other
2.....well, they weren't worth it anyway, as it so turned out ;) !!
Hind sight, and fore sight, can be 20/20 too !!! It's called
applying the "H" filter, weeds out those that aren't worthy of us
anyway !!! - Fred
I wait longer
to tell someone than most people on here seem to. The way I see it,
until I know they are worth telling, and worthy of me sharing myself and
opening up to them, I'm not going to tell them. I have never had a bad
reaction. I know when I need to tell, it's when I start pushing them
away to avoid the conversation, that's when it's time for me to talk
about it. The way I see it, there are not many great people out there.
Finding a good person that you have a real connection with, is very very
rare I believe. I don't think it's so much that the person would "fall
for you" in such a short amount of time, that they wouldn't care but
more that, as in my position, I know a good man when I see one, an STD
is not going to change my mind. Some people are worth it. I have
HSV1,
I never have outbreaks, it's not even an issue anymore, but I choose to
date guys with HSV2 over anybody else, knowing that I could get HSV2,
how crappy the whole thing is, I don't care. Most men I have met with
HSV2 are from
Positive Singles, they are such great people, they are
mature, and smart, and honest people. Not all of them, but the ones I
have dated. I will take those qualities over somebody who "got lucky"
and hasn't gotten anything, or better yet.. just doesn't know about it
yet any day. Good luck to you! - Valerie
I don't
really care about if my partner has HSV even though I myself don't have
it. there is more to life than that. If I love someone then I will love
them for who they are and not hold back because they have a virus. I
would be upset if someone neglected to tell me about it for a long
period of time. A relationship is built on trust and trust is overcoming
fears. - Kimberly
I believe it's important to take your time getting
to know the person before you tell them that you have herpes. In other
words, I wouldn't tell somebody on the first, second, or even third date
about my having herpes. To take it further, I wouldn't tell anybody
about my status unless I was planning on having sex with that person.
Besides, what if I wind up not liking them as much as I thought I did?
What if the person winds up to be somebody I didn't expect them to be?
Part of getting to know somebody is spending time with them in a way
that doesn't always include sex. For me, there has to be something more
in a relationship than just the physical. - Angela
Talk
about Talking about STD's BEFORE Sex!!
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