welcome to the forum.
the first thing i'm going to say is, "stop blaming yourself!" you've been married 10 yrs, and neither of you have (apparently) ever been tested for herpes. plus, you don't know for sure if you even have it.
first obs are usually the worst, and can be extremely painful. it's known that menstrual cycles can cause recurrent obs, so i don't know why they couldn't cause a primary ob. this is related to stress.
here are some ideas for relief:
- take a squirt bottle and squirt water on your lady parts while peeing.
- take a sitz bath as needed (just fill the bath about 5-6 inches with lukewarm water - increase temperature as tolerated)
- put an ice pack on your lady parts (over undies or clothes). awkward? use a bag of frozen veggies.
- ask your doc for an Rx for lidocaine ointment (topical anesthetic).
How many other woman have had their first OB while on their period?
no clue. but you're probably not the first.
how do I know when they've started to heal?
i'm pretty sure that, like most blisters, they will either pop or resorb. let them do whichever on their own, if possible. eventually they'll start to dry out. keep the area dry, but if you are still in pain i'd keep using the ointment.
Did any one else start to feel tingling down the back of you're thigh after starting Valtrex? Possibly a new OB?
i don't know. but tingling is associated with an ob, and it's location depends on which nerve is infected (which could have branches that go down your leg). i doubt it's a new ob if you're still in the first one. i have heard people say their first ob had multiple symptoms that arose at different times. you should mention this symptom to your doc.
hopefully, someone else will come by to give you their personal take. meanwhile, keep your chin up, because it's going to get better.