Condom Usage?

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Condom Usage?

Postby ghost_wolf04 » Fri Apr 29, 2016 10:35 pm

I have recently been diagnosed with genital warts. Haven't been to see a doc yet for a biopsy or pap test, but what I have read online is that generally if you have warts it is a good sign that the hpv you have isn't cancerous.
I'm just wondering if condoms really protect against hpv spread? I have never used a condom. Always carried them with me but neither of my exes would use a condom or lubricant, even though I bought both. They usually just wanted to overpower, choke, and hurt me.
Is this normal in this day and age? Do you guys think it is normal to watch porn like that, and therefore learn that it is acceptable to not wear condoms and abuse your girlfriend? Has anyone else dealt with a situation like this? I am scared to have new sex partners because I don't want to pass this on to someone else if the condom doesn't work or breaks. I'm also scared that because of what I have, I will end up dating more guys who are abusive and that they will try to play head games saying I can't leave because no one else would want me. I have already experienced this and that was before I was diagnosed with an std.
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Re: Condom Usage?

Postby Yoshi2me » Sun May 15, 2016 3:10 pm

It sounds like you already have a pretty good grasp about what you can do and what not to do.

Also, see some of my previous responses to your posts.

Have you thought about finding a counselor to talk about your relationship problems? Professional counselors are great at helping people figure out why they do what they do or why they attract a certain type of relationship or friendship. (Hope that makes sense)

I do think you should address your medical concerns with your family physician. I’m confused as to how you were diagnosed. I thought you were diagnosed by your doctor.

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Postby ghost_wolf04 » Sun May 15, 2016 11:57 pm

No I was told nothing by the nurse at the clinic who diagnosed me. I didn't know anything about what was going on or what it meant to have warts or how they got there. All she would say was you have to get them removed, you have to get them removed.
And as for your other comment, I don't know that I would trust a counselor, even if I could afford to see one. They would know my real identity and I am terrified of hospitals and being locked up. I trust my friends more on relationship advice, but as they are all good wholesome people who are married with children and attend church every Sunday, they don't know how to relate to what I've been through because they don't watch porn and not been in violent relationships. They are always just amazed that I allowed any of it to happen. It was because I was afraid he would kill me or hurt his kids if I didn't stay around to protect them. Plus I had never dated before, so I didn't know that being treated that bad was not normal. My ex told me I was stupid and that's just the way relationships and sex is. So I started picturing all my male friends beating and raping their wives and thought it was sad but must be normal until I finally ask advice from them and they were appalled and helped me move back home. Now I know that wasn't my responsibility because they are not my kids and that you can't fix people who are broken. I am also done dating divorcees with kids and people with different religious and moral ideas than mine just because I feel sorry for them. They aren't going to change and just because a person is a "settle" doesn't mean he knows it or is going to worship the ground I walk on. More likely he is going to think "Hey I got a chick this good, I'm gonna see how many more I can get behind her back before she figures it out."
Bottom line is I know good men. They are good fathers and good husbands. If I can't find one then fine. That is not the path for me and I would rather be alone than with evil heartless trash.
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Postby Yoshi2me » Thu May 26, 2016 8:52 am

Well, there are some really great counselors out there that can help you with your problems. Not everyone out there in the world is “bad” although I can certainly see why you are having trust issues.
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Postby LustforLife » Wed Jul 13, 2016 3:06 pm

hi ghost.

i hope you have been to your ob/gyn to seek treatment for the warts. my understanding is that they sometimes just go away after a couple of years (certain types). if they are irritating or uncomfortable, or if biopsied and not a type that will go away, then i believe they can be treated. used to be done by topical application of a cream or ointment, or by laser.

can't find much online about that, as last few years has all been about protection with the vaccine.

http://www.cdc.gov/std/tg2015/hpv.htm


with respect to abuse issues, i do think you should seek out a therapist. they are not going to commit you or lock you up for seeking help with abusive personal relationships. and, maybe they can get you some meds for your anxiety and panic attacks. try contacting your state, city, or local mental health department - they may have discount or sliding scale options for individual or group counseling. you can also look up NAMI and see what services are available in your area; they also have some support groups. lastly, search online for support sites and groups for victims of verbal/mental/physical abuse.

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