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What do you think of Positive Singles?

I really want to know. I want to know if you’ve tried it and whether or not you like it.

I also want to know if you found your significant other on Positive Singles and if you are living happily ever after.

Send me your story so I can put it up on the site, ok?

I think it’s so important for people to realize that unconditional love is very cool. Especially if you find the right one. It means the person you are with loves you for who you are.

I also would like to know if you still had the talk even though you met on Positive Singles. The reason why I mention this is because many people choose Positive Singles because they feel it takes the awkwardness out of having the talk. But I think you still have to have that discussion no matter which online dating site you choose.

Let me know what you think, ok?

I can’t wait to share your story. Also, if you would like to share your feedback and story please note that you may do so anonymously and/or via first names only.

Thanks Friends!

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I just got off the phone with our doctor’s nurse. She called to let us know the results of my daughter’s std testing. Negative for Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Chlamydia and HIV. The cultures that were done on the bacteria were fine. (She had an overgrowth of bacteria.) That’s good news, right?

When I asked if she was tested for Herpes she said, “oh we don’t do that unless there is a sore that can be cultured.” So you know me, I had to jump in and set her straight. So I told her, “You do realize that a type specific herpes antibody test, you know the ones that pick up herpes antibodies, can be done in order to find out if people have the herpes virus or not. Especially people that want to know their status but don’t get any outbreaks that can be cultured. You do know that, right?”

She had no clue what to say to me. She basically explained that herpes testing is not something the doctor ordered. That’s too bad because my daughter is going to ask me why they didn’t test her for herpes and we’ll have to start that process all over again.

Why do health care providers do that? Why can’t they just do the testing that needs to be done? If somebody is coming in and asking to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases then do what you can to test that person for all sexually transmitted diseases. Come on! Get with the program health care providers! People have a right to know if they are positive or negative for herpes.

I get a lot of phone calls from believers who can’t quite wrap their minds around their diagnosis. They always say thing like, “But I’m a Godly woman. I don’t understand how I got this?” OR “Why is God punishing me?”

First of all, your herpes diagnosis doesn’t have anything to do with how “Godly” you are. Even Christians and believers have problems in their life. Yes, Christians get herpes. Good people get herpes. Personally, I find it to be a bit silly and borderline offensive when people outwardly assume that only “bad” people get herpes.

Seriously? Do you really believe that you get to live this life without ever having any troubles or health issues? Did you think your life would be perfect?

I would say to a Christ follower, believer, and/or Christian to meditate on this verse while you are learning everything that you can about this virus and how it works:

Psalm 55: 22 Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

Through good times and bad, ups and downs God is there for you. Pray about it, meditate on it, and give your troubles up to the Lord. He will see you through it ALL of it. God knows what he is doing and everything happens for a reason. Give your burdens to the Lord.

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Hi I just read some really bad reviews about this everCLR3 and Im pretty scared now, I just got herpes and I’m not sure on what to take? Do you know of any Drug or Medicine that is been approved by the FDA that is safe to take? I beg you to hep me please. ~Anonymous

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I gave this guy oral sex 2 weeks ago. About two days after I got cold sores inside my lips. I have had cold sores before but usually only one and this time I had about 4. I took Valtrax and they were gone in about two days. I am concerned that he gave me herpes type 2. Obviously I already has type 1. So if I have herpes type 1 and 2 in my mouth (which I know is rare) then whats the difference? I am concerned because if I do have type 2 in my mouth whats the difference between type 1? I am kind of freaking out and my doctor had no idea what I was talking about. please help me with answers!! ~Anonymous

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hi guys! im new here! i came across this awsome website in a search to get closure and a piece of mind from a recent mistake.

here is my background: i have had herpes for ten years now. i have had three outbreaks in those ten years. this is the only std i have ever contracted… leave it to me to get one that wont go away! lol but anyway, i had a hard first few years.. felt disgusting… and unworthy of love. then i got out of bed one day and told my self to GET OVER IT! that was the best decision i ever made! my friends all know about it. i am very open about it! i can even take the little corny jokes from my friends that slip out every once in a while! its funny… just because i have herpes… they think i am a walking std dictionary! lol they all come to me from time to time with questions.

i got herpes right after i graduated from high school. i had a boyfriend whom which i was sexually active with. we broke up. exactly a week later i had sex with another guy. a week later i began to exhibit symptoms of an active outbreak… and so did the guy. i confronted the ex and he denied it. i will never know who actually gave it to me. the guy and i didnt speak for about a year… today… we are the best of friends.

because i contracted herpes from someone not disclosing that info to me… i promised myself i would never put a potential partner in that position. not only for their health… but for my sanity and piece of mind. so i set my self a three month rule. i promised myself i would not have sex with a boyfriend until after three months. not because i felt having sex sooner would make me look easy…. but because i felt that three months was enough time for me to get a good idea of who the guy was and whether or not i could trust him to use this information for the purpose it was disclosed for. and i am proud to say in my ten years and countless relationships… i have never had a guy run away from me! lol

well recently… i met this amazing guy. i met him from a mutual friend of ours. we finally went on a date. and he was amazing. everything i could ever want in a serious relationship. it has been about a month and a half since our first date and i began to really fall for him. we went out for drinks a week ago. i had had a bit to drink… but nothing i couldnt handle. i woke up the next morning naked in his bed not remembering anything past sitting at the bar. i have no clue what time we left the bar, or getting in his car. i freaked out. i hadnt told him yet. so i said that we needed to talk. i told him. he was angry, but also said that i tried to tell him in the heat of the moment but he didnt let me. we talked about it. he decided to schedule an appointment. we talked for the next three days. then he went two days w/o calling. then he called again to see how i was doing. and now its been three days and i called and he wont answer.

i know i should be worried about having something slipped into my drink, but to be honest, i would rather that be the case. if it was, it would make sence for my big screw up. i am not sure what to do from here. this was soooo out of character for me. and i am crazy about this guy! any advice for me? ~Anonymous

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Check out Positive Singles and then write me back and let me know how it worked out for you!

If you don’t want to limit yourself to niche dating sites then check out some of the other online dating sites I’ve put together for you.

Keep an open mind because you’ll never know who you might find! It doesn’t hurt to look, right?