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BUT I NEED TO ADD TWO MORE QUESTIONS…. WHAT ABOUT MAKE UP..
IF SOME ONE SHARES THEIR MAKE UP WITH SOMEONE THAT HAS GENITAL HERPES..LIKE LIPSTIK, AND EYE MAKEUP…

THE OTHER QUESTION IS ABOUT GOING TO THE BATHROOM… CAN SOMEONE BE INFECTED BY SOMEONE SITTING ON THE TOILET SEAT.. OR BY USING A TOOTH BRUSH BY MISTAKE… THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP….

I really don’t mind answering the questions at all. I like being able to post my responses to the blog because then that way other people can benefit from this discussion, ya know?

I don’t see how make-up would even come into play at this point and especially since the person you are referring to has genital herpes. She doesn’t put make-up on her genitals, does she?

From a more practical viewpoint I would hope that people out there are not sharing their make-up. It’s not a good idea to do that even if you didn’t have herpes.

The toilet seat questions comes up A LOT. You aren’t going to contract herpes from a toilet seat. Herpes can’t even survive on a toilet seat and if you really think about it – her genitals aren’t going to touch the toilet seat if she actually sits on it to begin with.

Just know that the only way you can contract herpes is through skin to skin contact usually through kissing, regular sex, oral sex, and anal sex.

You need to order those books I told you about!

I forgot to mention that people should not be sharing tooth brushes! I’m not going to say that it isn’t impossible to contract oral herpes from somebody by using their tooth brush. It’s a stretch but I think under the right circumstances it could theoretically be done.

Have you ever seen the South Park Chicken Pox Episode? It’s very funny!

MY GIRL FRIEND’S SISTER HAS GENITAL HERPES. THE SISTER IS MOVING IN WITH HER. MY GIRL FRIEND HAS TWO BOYS, 7 AND 8, THE BOYS ARE VERY AFFECTIONATE. THEY HUG AND KISS THEIR AUNT IN THE PAST. IS THERE ANY RISK OF THE BOYS BECOMING INFECTED?

Not at all. I don’t see how they could be at risk. Herpes Simplex Virus is passed only when it’s active through skin to skin contact and usually through some sort of sexual activity. I really don’t see how your girlfriend’s sister would be able to pass her herpes on to her sister’s boys, ya know?

MY GIRL FRIEND AND HER SISTER ARE GOING TO SLEEP IN THE SAME BED. WHAT ARE THE RISKS OF MY GIRL FRIEND BECOMING INFECTED?

You aren’t going to contract herpes from objects. Herpes doesn’t just jump off the person onto the sheets and then onto the person that is sleeping next to you. Herpes is skin-to-skin.

WHEN THE LAUNDRY IS DONE SHOULD THE PERSONS UNDERGARMENTS THAT IS INFECTED BE LAUNDERED SEPERATE?

There is no reason to make special arrangements for how to do laundry either. Herpes doesn’t survive outside of the body on clothes, etc. She can mix everybody’s clothes up and do laundry all at once if she wants to. I really think that maybe you are over reacting just a tad bit, don’t you?

ARE THERE ANY BOOKS WE CAN BUY TO HELP US ON THIS MATTER. MY GIRL FRIEND IS WORRIED SICK HER BOYS MAY BE EXPOSED…. HELP WITH ADVICE PLEASE…

Yes! There are books you can order that will help you get this figured out. Also, don’t be afraid to talk to your doctor. Write down any other questions that you might have so you won’t forget which ones you wanted to ask.

Herpes books you can order right from Yoshi2me.com!

There is a gal that posts pretty regularly over on Picking Up the Pieces that left someone with some excellent advice that she and I both felt was worth sharing with you guys over here on Sexual Health Buzz. I hope that this piece of advice will help people.

I understand your emotions completely. Unfortunately, many people do not disclose. Just wait till your test comes back before you come to any conclusions. Valtrex is very effective in reducing transmission. And, with a condom, chances are even less. If, your tests go from negative to positive (like mine did), you know where you got it from. And, hopefully,
this individual will realize the errors of his ways and live his life right. But, it is out of your control and all you can do either way, is go on with your life.

I wouldn’t go around telling everyone. If, you have a close trusted friend/family member. It might not be a bad idea to let them know what you are going through. It is always better to stand as two than being alone. My close friends and family have been a great support system for me.

Try and find a local support/help group in your area.

And, even, if your test does come back positive. You are the same person, inside and out.

For me what works is God. If, I worry more, am stressed out, or life in general. It’s because my spiritual life isn’t where it should be. So, I pray more. Get in the Word more. The stronger I am spiritually, the easier ANYTHING in life becomes. I am actually more picky since I was diagnosed. And, I feel that I’m worth more than I did before. (Imagine that) It didn’t happen overnight, it was a process. I went through the “I’ll only date someone who has it”, to I’ll never date again. I met guys that had it and guys that accepted the fact that I did have this. And, guess what, I CHOSE not to date any of them. I thought originally that I would just go to the first person who offered me a relationship, because then I would be under the safety umbrella of a relationship. That didn’t work out for me because my self esteem was rising and yours will too.

The “enemy” thrives on depression and low self-esteem. The enemy knows our deepest fears and uses it against us. But, God and having faith will always win. Reading the bible, praying, and being with a good support system will make you even harder to be knocked down. Whether it be a manageable virus or “when something really happens”.

Just as you had choices before, you will have choices after. I felt cornered when I was originally diagnosed and now I don’t. And, you will too. Progress not perfection. Anyone who doesn’t see who you are, isn’t seeing the real you. They are only seeing a “skin condition”. And, you are worth way more than that.

Take a break from dating. Be with yourself for a while. Re-evaluate what you want. Take this as a learning experience. You will NOW trust your instincts quicker and be a wiser person from this. I have found that I can spot the “red flags” quicker and I watch more closely. I am more in tune to what is happening instead of being in the daze of infatuation. So, in some ways, this has been a blessing. I’m more picky, have more attitude, have grown more spiritual and my instincts are on high alert. I like being single, am going out with my friends more, walking closer with God and am enjoy just being me. Sometimes I see myself being married, sometimes not. I did get an offer of marriage (from someone who doesn’t have it) and the ball was left in my court. So, yes, it does get better. You will see that you have choices and you will grow from this
experience. I was exactly where you are now, a year ago. Even a year, can make a difference.

Hope this helps.

Wasn’t that great advice you guys! When I read the advice that was given the other day it made me happy to see that people no longer feel tried by their fear to hold on to something that really isn’t worth holding on to. I hope this post helps you if you are reading!

To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring
it means I can’t do it for someone else
To let go is not to cut myself off..
it’s the realization that I can’t control another
To let go is not to enable
but to allow learning from natural consequences
To let go is to admit powerlessness
which means the outcome is not in my hands
To let go is not try to change or blame another
I can only change myself
To let go is not to care for
but to care about
To let go is not to fix
but to be supportive
To let go is not to judge
but to allow another to be a human being
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes
but to allow others to effect their own outcomes
To let go is not to be protective
it is to permit another to face reality
To let go is not to deny
but to accept
To let go is not to nag, scold or argue
but to search out my own shortcomings and to correct them
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires
but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone
but to try to become the best person I can be
To let go is not to regret the past
but to grow and live for the future
To let go is to fear less and love more

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I got a confirmation e-mail today letting me know that somebody added me to their Facebook. I’m thinking, “how cool” and couldn’t wait to check out my new friend.

To my horror I see that this person not only wants to add me to her friends list but she wants to say that she knows me “from the HSV boards.” WTF?

I have family members, friends, internet buddies on my Facebook that I don’t necessarily want them knowing that I hang out on the HSV boards. It’s not that I’m embarrassed by it by any means because I’m not.

I just don’t think it’s any of their business how we know each other! Why can’t people just put that we know each other randomly and then stick a year as to how long we’ve known each other?

Why does it have to be broadcast that we know each other from an HSV board? I don’t get it?

My teen’s friends have access to my Facebook and I don’t necessarily want them knowing my business out of the blue because guess who’s going to get teased at school?

DUH!?

I saw the light at the end of the tunnel and chose to walk away instead of putting myself in the middle of unnecessary drama.

The work that I do is too important for me to allow my focus on helping others slip to the way side. Today I made a choice to not allow myself the option of being miserable.

I walked away from the yoshi-bashing years ago and don’t intend to ever allow it to get the best of me and especially not today.

The work is too important to lose site of what the goal is… besides… the newbies need our full and undivided attention even if they don’t always hear what we write.

People send me feedback all the time about my site. Some of it is good and some of it is not so good.

No matter what kind of feedback I get I am appreciative of those that take the time to write and tell me what they think.

Here’s the latest that I’ve received

If you’d like to cast your vote you can!

You can check those out here

I still say that DMSO to treat herpes is a SCAM.

Here’s more discussion about DMSO

• DMSO have you tried it?
• Having success with DMSO
• I have been using DMSO cream on my outbreaks
• What’s the deal with “Never an Outbreak” ??
• Anyone ever hear of “Never an Outbreak” ??
• The real story behind DMSO

Let the bashing begin!

I was curious because I have not heard of that before. I suppose if I had a headache right after having an orgasm I would probably take some Tylenol and then just monitor the situation and track it on a calendar or something. If I was experiencing severe pain as a result of having an orgasm I would probably contact my doctor ASAP.

What would you do?

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Here’s the question:

I got the call yesterday that I have chlamydia. The only two people I have been with say they have been tested and both have been negative so someone is lying. The guy who I think I contracted it from says he requested to be tested for STIs/STDs when he enlisted in the military (they take your blood for HIV test). Now I’m just curious can they detect that you contracted chlamydia just through blood work? Or does it have to be from a swab or urine sample?

Here’s my response:

Chlamydia tests use a sample of body fluid or urine to see whether chlamydia bacteria (Chlamydia trachomatis) are present and causing an infection. Chlamydia is the most common bacterial sexually transmitted disease (STD) in the United States.

Several types of tests can be used to find a chlamydia infection. Most tests use a sample of body fluid from the affected area.

* Nucleic acid amplification tests (NAAT). These tests find the genetic material (DNA) of chlamydia bacteria. These tests are the most sensitive tests available. This means they are very accurate and that they are very unlikely to have false-positive test results. A polymerase chain reaction (PCR) test is an example of a nucleic acid amplification test. This test can also be done on a urine sample.

* Nucleic acid hybridization tests (DNA probe test). A probe test also finds chlamydia DNA. A probe test is very accurate but is not as sensitive as nucleic acid amplification tests.

* Enzyme-linked immunosorbent assay (ELISA, EIA). This common, quick test finds substances (chlamydia antigens) that trigger the immune system to fight chlamydia infection.

* Direct fluorescent antibody test (DFA). This common, quick test also finds chlamydia antigens.

* Chlamydia culture. A culture is a special cup that allows the chlamydia bacteria to grow. This test is more expensive and the results take longer (5 to 7 days) than the other tests. The culture must be done in a lab. The chlamydia culture test may be done when child sexual abuse is suspected or when treatment for infection has not worked.

Hat Tip: WebMD

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