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I am in the middle of a break-up because of my situation. I told him exactly 8 days ago. He was so understanding at first and told me he would need to educate himself but he would not bail on me.

We have seen each other two times since the bomb dropping and he was fine the first night, distant the second night. He used to email me every night and abruptly stopped. I know it’s over – just hasn’t been voiced yet.

He is the first man I have told I loved them in 12 years. This hurts – it sucks – it’s not fair. I want to scream and cry and tell him I am the same person I was 8 days ago that he was saying he could see marrying. Of course then he would leave because I was pyscho – Damn stigma.

All the depression and loneliness I felt when I found out I had it has come rushing back. My friends are very supportive about my relationship breaking-up but they don’t know why. It hurts when people don’t understand why you don’t have a boyfriend because and I quote “you are such a sweet beautiful person.” Ugh, if they only knew.

I am trying a dating site for guys in the same boat. It has taken me so long to trust that someone could see past this, but apparently a skin condition outweighs compatibility. I wish all of you the best of love and life. A full life with people you can trust who do not see you as your situation, but for you.

Hello, I just want to say thank you.

I found your site 5 yrs ago when I was 31 yrs old scared to death, and newly diagnosed.

For the first time in yrs I was having one of those days today where I felt down about having this disease.

I was doing a web search when I saw the name “Yoshi2me” and remembered reading your bio years ago.

So I read it again and I just wanted to thank you because you really reminded me that I am not alone and that we all have crosses to bear.

God has a plan for us all and the positive way that you have shared your story and other information, have made me feel better.

You are truly a blessing to others and I pray that God will continue to bless you and your family.

Take Care!

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So I started dating a guy last May. Things where bad about 3 months into the relationship. On the day I decided I was going to stop seeing him, I fell off a mountain and almost died and he was there. The trauma of the event bonded us, and I not only stayed with him, but decided to take our relationship to the next level… we slept together.

To make a long story short, he ended up being a total psycho, who also as a bonus, had herpes, and of course gave it to me! How exciting! It took me months and months to accept this (wait, I’m still trying to accept this). Anyway, after months of being a recluse and hating all men, I date again.

I meet a wonderful man, who decided after lots of research, that he is OK with it. Thing is, he is military and leaving the country this January. Short lived relationship. We were careful during our relationship, and he is clean and clear.

So after that relationship ends, a few months later, I start seeing someone new. I told him last night that I have herpes. He said “First off H* I am sorry for what happened to you, and I know that its no consultation for something that cannot be taken back. I am very glad that you told me, and above all you did the right thing. It shows the person that you really are. As far as us I have to be honest, it is not something that I am very comfortable with. You are a super person H* and I would very much like to keep you as a friend if that’s OK with you??? Let me know, I don’t want you to be uncomfortable or uneasy. If not I wish you the best that life has to offer. I too get depressed on occasion and I always feel a little better knowing that someone in this world is always suffering worse than I am. Your relationship with the guy from the Air Force is positive proof that you will find someone H* I feel like shit, I don’t want to hurt you or make you feel bad”.

I cannot go through this again. I can’t start a relationship knowing I have to have this conversation. One went well, one did not. They all end either way. What do you think?

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I’ve been seeing a lot of these open threads so I thought it would be fun to start one on Abstinence since I don’t really have any posts on that topic. Since this blog is one about sexual health issues I’m thinking, why not? Let’s talk about Abstinence.

I am a big fan of abstinence only as a way to prevent pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases because it seems to be the only foolproof way of preventing stuff. Think about it, if you don’t have sex you can’t contract an STD and you can’t get pregnant, right? It’s really that simple in theory but what about real life every day situations and circumstances that you might find yourself in? Can you think of any instances where abstinence only does not work?

One thing that comes to mind is how Abstinence is being taught in schools. (Well, in schools that would even go there) Are young adults getting all of the information or are they only getting part of the information? I personally believe that if sex education is going to be taught in schools that abstinence as well as all of the other options should be presented too: ie birth control, condoms, etc.

Sure abstinence works but only if it’s used correctly, right?

I’d like to hear from you. What do you think of when you hear the word Abstinence? Do you think it works? If so, why? Do you think that it doesn’t work and if so, why not?

Could you imagine getting something like this delivered to your home or place of employment?

Hopefully it was something somebody decided to do for a significant other in the privacy of their own dwelling.

What would your reaction be to getting something like that?

Not everything that happens down there is always going to be because of herpes.

That is why it’s so important to see the doctor.

Try not to diagnose yourself and please insist on proper testing.

Herpes does not always look some something, ok?

When was the last time you were tested for STD’s including Herpes?

What are you doing to treat your herpes outbreaks?

Have you tried alternative?

Do you tend to stick to the clinically proven stuff?

Why or Why Not!?

Herpes does not invade your pants.

You catch herpes from having sex OR oral sex with somebody that’s infected that has viral activity.

Condoms do not prevent STD’s 100% of the time.

Herpes is not included in routine STD testing, did you know that?