Being infected with Herpes doesn’t end my life
I will begin by describing myself as a down to earth women filled with humbleness humility and a passion to help people. Despite of all my genuineness and my good heart I am now living with the HSV-2 Virus. As shockingly as it was for me to accept it, I’m living with Herpes.
I believe the flaws in my relationships was not knowing how to choose a good man, and believing that the man I was faithful too was faithful to me. Four years ago I met a man and lived a 2 yr relationship with him. Come to find out he was not the man he pretended to be an was cheating on me and gave me Chlamydia. It was the end of my world and I left him.
I found a new partner and as well gave him 2 years of my life. As all relationships we had our ups and downs and our differences and immaturities affected our love and respect for each other. Despite the downs I remain monogamous and true to our relationship. On the other hand he made a mistake and cheated on me. This occurred in November of 2006.
I immediately went to my doctor and got checked for all STDS. I was negative for all Sexually Transmitted Infections, but the doctor stated she couldn’t check me for Herpes since I showed no symptoms. I left the doctors office relieved and trustworthy. After two long term relationships I was adamant to still keep searching for that one man to prove to me that he was different.
Months later I found that man and fell for his kindness, love, and respect toward me. In January I started my internship at a non-profit organization working as a HIV Prevention Specialist. Upon working here I became certified to perform HIV testing, I became knowledgeable about all Sexually Transmitted Infections.
In June 29, 2007 I was due for my physical and decided to get all types of blood work done. To my surprise my blood test came back positive for HSV-2 stating I was positive for Herpes. I was in denial. My life crashed down that week. I was depressed for days without going to work, eating, or wanting any social contact. My mind was confused as to who gave me this virus. Was it my new partner, my ex partner, my partner from 4 yrs ago. I have never had any symptoms and I felt healthy.
I immediately contacted my ex partner and my new partner. They needed to get tested and be aware of this virus I was positive for. My new partner of 4 months and his ex partner of years both came back Negative. I was shocked since me and my new partners have practiced un protective sex for almost 4 months. My ex partner was in denial and hasn’t been tested yet. I decided to take a second test to confirm my results. Recently in July 25, 2007 my results once again were positive. There were no more doubts in my mind I was living with Herpes.
The doctor stated I was asymptomatic, meaning I do have the virus but I show no signs or symptoms. I will never know who gave me this virus or for how long I have been living with it. This is how these viruses and sexually transmitted infections work. From unprotected sex and from one partner to another. I am glad I wasn’t infected with HIV since my results were negative.
I choose to share my story to show that even if you are in a monogamous relationship, your partner might not be. My mistake was to put my life and trust in these men whom I thought could be trusted. My new partner is Negative for Herpes until now; maybe the test was taken too early to detect any HSV antibodies. He has chosen to stay by my side and has asked me to marry him despite all.
I simply ask the Lord for Courage to be able to live a normal life, which I know I can, and the courage to accept any outbreaks as they might come. I plan to start taking Valtrex to protect my partner and we are now using protection. Being infected with Herpes doesn’t end my life it simply joins it. - G
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You sound very confident in what you say. REading your story kind of gives me hope. I am 18 and was infected about a year ago. I was only having sex with one person for three years when i became infected. He still denies ever having sexual relations with any one. I think that is what makes me so angry. He will sit in my face and see me crying and sobbing over it and still lies about. There is no other way i could have got it but from him. He never has had any symptoms and it makes me furious. I was the innocent person and i have to pay for what he did to me. He wont even admit to it. But through all this i ahave learned never put your life in a man or any ones hand.
That’s why it’s so important to talk about STDS and make a date to go and get tested properly for STDS before you have sex w/someone.
I’m glad you got something out of reading this story. That is why I put them out there. People send me their stories every day to post on the internet with the hope of helping somebody even if it’s just one person.
You are lucky to find a guy who would marry you knowing you have herpes. Most wouldn’t as it is a bigger sacrifice than needs to made. He must really love you. Hope you treat him right. Kudos to you for being open about it. I know of people who don’t tell their partners, which is just cruel.
Are you kidding me? Of course there are people out there that will love others for who they are and won’t care about somebody’s herpes status. Isn’t love about sacrifices too? What makes you think I don’t treat my man right? We’ve been married already for seven years on June 9th! I will continue to be open and honest about it and hope that others will join me and stop being so ashamed.
You did a really great thing by telling your man about your herpes. It is a very, very, very hard thing for people to do. Just because you have herpes does not mean it is the end of the world. I am happy to hear you are doing so well. Hold on to your LOVE, you have so much to look forward to when there is love in your life.
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