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HERPES QUESTION #4

Can I go down on my husband after we already started having sex? Sometimes my husband would love for me to start giving him oral sex after we already started having sex and I don’t do it because I am afraid I am going to ger oral herpes because of my vaginal fluids and just his penis touching my vaginal area. I would love to fulfill his pleasure but I am afraid.

If I were in your shoes, just to ease your mind, I would make a date together to go and see a doctor so that you can know his status too. I would also write down any questions that you might have and really sit down and discuss this with your doctor. Don’t be afraid to ask these type of questions when you go to your appointment.

Your husband might already have herpes and you would have worried about transmitting it to him for nothing because if he already had it you are not going to pass it back and forth. That’s not how that works.

I also believe that you really think that herpes can travel to and from very easily and that’s not the case. The virus doesn’t even survive on objects like sheets, OR toilet seats, etc.

I think that you and your husband can have a very fulfilling sex life and can figure out what you do OR don’t feel comfortable doing in bed once you know for sure what his status is and have read as much as you can about herpes.