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I just got off the phone with our doctor’s nurse. She called to let us know the results of my daughter’s std testing. Negative for Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Chlamydia and HIV. The cultures that were done on the bacteria were fine. (She had an overgrowth of bacteria.) That’s good news, right?

When I asked if she was tested for Herpes she said, “oh we don’t do that unless there is a sore that can be cultured.” So you know me, I had to jump in and set her straight. So I told her, “You do realize that a type specific herpes antibody test, you know the ones that pick up herpes antibodies, can be done in order to find out if people have the herpes virus or not. Especially people that want to know their status but don’t get any outbreaks that can be cultured. You do know that, right?”

She had no clue what to say to me. She basically explained that herpes testing is not something the doctor ordered. That’s too bad because my daughter is going to ask me why they didn’t test her for herpes and we’ll have to start that process all over again.

Why do health care providers do that? Why can’t they just do the testing that needs to be done? If somebody is coming in and asking to be tested for sexually transmitted diseases then do what you can to test that person for all sexually transmitted diseases. Come on! Get with the program health care providers! People have a right to know if they are positive or negative for herpes.

I get a lot of phone calls from believers who can’t quite wrap their minds around their diagnosis. They always say thing like, “But I’m a Godly woman. I don’t understand how I got this?” OR “Why is God punishing me?”

First of all, your herpes diagnosis doesn’t have anything to do with how “Godly” you are. Even Christians and believers have problems in their life. Yes, Christians get herpes. Good people get herpes. Personally, I find it to be a bit silly and borderline offensive when people outwardly assume that only “bad” people get herpes.

Seriously? Do you really believe that you get to live this life without ever having any troubles or health issues? Did you think your life would be perfect?

I would say to a Christ follower, believer, and/or Christian to meditate on this verse while you are learning everything that you can about this virus and how it works:

Psalm 55: 22 Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

Through good times and bad, ups and downs God is there for you. Pray about it, meditate on it, and give your troubles up to the Lord. He will see you through it ALL of it. God knows what he is doing and everything happens for a reason. Give your burdens to the Lord.

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Hi I just read some really bad reviews about this everCLR3 and Im pretty scared now, I just got herpes and I’m not sure on what to take? Do you know of any Drug or Medicine that is been approved by the FDA that is safe to take? I beg you to hep me please. ~Anonymous

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I gave this guy oral sex 2 weeks ago. About two days after I got cold sores inside my lips. I have had cold sores before but usually only one and this time I had about 4. I took Valtrax and they were gone in about two days. I am concerned that he gave me herpes type 2. Obviously I already has type 1. So if I have herpes type 1 and 2 in my mouth (which I know is rare) then whats the difference? I am concerned because if I do have type 2 in my mouth whats the difference between type 1? I am kind of freaking out and my doctor had no idea what I was talking about. please help me with answers!! ~Anonymous

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hi guys! im new here! i came across this awsome website in a search to get closure and a piece of mind from a recent mistake.

here is my background: i have had herpes for ten years now. i have had three outbreaks in those ten years. this is the only std i have ever contracted… leave it to me to get one that wont go away! lol but anyway, i had a hard first few years.. felt disgusting… and unworthy of love. then i got out of bed one day and told my self to GET OVER IT! that was the best decision i ever made! my friends all know about it. i am very open about it! i can even take the little corny jokes from my friends that slip out every once in a while! its funny… just because i have herpes… they think i am a walking std dictionary! lol they all come to me from time to time with questions.

i got herpes right after i graduated from high school. i had a boyfriend whom which i was sexually active with. we broke up. exactly a week later i had sex with another guy. a week later i began to exhibit symptoms of an active outbreak… and so did the guy. i confronted the ex and he denied it. i will never know who actually gave it to me. the guy and i didnt speak for about a year… today… we are the best of friends.

because i contracted herpes from someone not disclosing that info to me… i promised myself i would never put a potential partner in that position. not only for their health… but for my sanity and piece of mind. so i set my self a three month rule. i promised myself i would not have sex with a boyfriend until after three months. not because i felt having sex sooner would make me look easy…. but because i felt that three months was enough time for me to get a good idea of who the guy was and whether or not i could trust him to use this information for the purpose it was disclosed for. and i am proud to say in my ten years and countless relationships… i have never had a guy run away from me! lol

well recently… i met this amazing guy. i met him from a mutual friend of ours. we finally went on a date. and he was amazing. everything i could ever want in a serious relationship. it has been about a month and a half since our first date and i began to really fall for him. we went out for drinks a week ago. i had had a bit to drink… but nothing i couldnt handle. i woke up the next morning naked in his bed not remembering anything past sitting at the bar. i have no clue what time we left the bar, or getting in his car. i freaked out. i hadnt told him yet. so i said that we needed to talk. i told him. he was angry, but also said that i tried to tell him in the heat of the moment but he didnt let me. we talked about it. he decided to schedule an appointment. we talked for the next three days. then he went two days w/o calling. then he called again to see how i was doing. and now its been three days and i called and he wont answer.

i know i should be worried about having something slipped into my drink, but to be honest, i would rather that be the case. if it was, it would make sence for my big screw up. i am not sure what to do from here. this was soooo out of character for me. and i am crazy about this guy! any advice for me? ~Anonymous

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I WILL LIFT MY EYES
By Bebo Norman

God, my God, I cry out
Your beloved needs You now
God, be near calm my fear and take my doubt
Your kindness is what pulls me up
Your love is all that draws me in

I will lift my eyes to the Maker
of the mountains I can’t climb
I will lift my eyes to the Calmer
of the oceans raging wild
I will lift my eyes to the Healer
of the hurt I hold inside
I will lift my eyes, lift my eyes to You

God, my God, let mercy sing
her melody over me
and God, right here all I bring
is all of me
Your kindness is what pulls me up
Your love is all that draws me in

I will lift my eyes to the Maker
of the mountains I can’t climb
I will lift my eyes to the Calmer
of the oceans raging wild
I will lift my eyes to the Healer
of the hurt I hold inside
I will lift my eyes, lift my eyes to You

‘Cause You are and You were and You will be forever
the Lover I need to save me
‘Cause You fashioned the earth and You hold it together, God
so hold me now

I will lift my eyes to the Maker
of the mountains I can’t climb
I will lift my eyes to the Calmer
of the oceans raging wild
I will lift my eyes to the Healer
of the hurt I hold inside
I will lift my eyes, lift my eyes to You
I will lift my eyes, lift my eyes to You

God, my God, I cry out
Your beloved needs You now

Questions asked from the “Will It Kill Me” Post

When i tested three years ago for a full panle exam when i was about 19 years old, i was only positive for type 1 and negative for type 2. i had a bad cold or flu around decmeber and kept coughing till now so last week i did an std test to rule out hiv etc. this past week i found i had type 2. it was done through advanced testing center. its all done over the phone and they tell you where to go to for a local testing center lab and i call advance testing center a few days after once they get my results from the lab.. so i just found out i have type 2.

Yes but how were you tested through these testing centers? Did you go into a clinic and have a herpes type specific antibody test (a blood test) done? How do you know that you have HSV-2? What did the doctor say to you when you were told that you have Herpes Type-2?

i thought once you get type 1 its rare to get type 2.

You know what… I think there are people that will contract HSV-1, HSV-2, both OR nothing at all. I honestly believe that having HSV-1 doesn’t always protect you from contracting HSV-2. If that were the case then we wouldn’t have people out there that have both types.. ya know? Does that make sense?

so i didnt go for reaon of symptoms it was just my idea to do a full panel test becuase i was sick for longer than a usual cold.. it was a blood test done through Herpes Simplex 1 & 2 IGG Antibody Test. is this test accurate? is there a chance it can be wrong since i haven had symptoms? is it worth retesting or its pretty accurate? and i was taking acid reflux medication and antibiotic for my cough at the time of the lab work. does that matter? sorry for all the questions.. im just freaking out..

I have always heard over the years that IGG is pretty darn accurate. It’s the IGM that you want to stay away from. At least that is what I’ve always heard. What did your doctor think about all of this? What did your doctor tell you?

You know, lots and lots of people have herpes and they don’t get any symptoms that they can see or feel. It’s possible to have herpes and not know it because of this reason. Just because you can’t see anything doesn’t mean that you don’t have it.

I don’t think it matters what you are taking. Usually when you go in to see your doctor they will ask you what medications you are taking so that they can be aware of what’s in your system. I don’t think what you mentioned has anything to do with affecting the test results. If it did, I would imagine the doctor would not have run these tests.. ya know?

i am rarely eating and sleeping since i found out.. am i over reacting?

I think that is a perfectly normal reaction to have when you first find out that you have herpes and it comes as a surprise or a shock to you. Try not to let this run or ruin your life. Read what you can about the virus, learn how it works, and try to calm yourself down. You don’t want to have a nervous breakdown over all of this. It’s just not worth it.

thank god i havent noticed symptoms. the counselor from advanced testing told me if i havent had outbreas yet than i likely may not see outbreaks.. is that true?

I think that they probably have a point. You are probably one of those people that doesn’t get outbreaks all that often if ever at all. Something that you have to remember though is that it’s still possible to pass herpes even if there are no outbreaks, signs or symptoms present. Try and remember that, ok?

i have thoughts of not even getting married anymore or having kids.. is that overreacting?

Yes! I believe you are over reacting. Your life doesn’t end and you don’t stop living it once you find out that you have herpes. Of course you can still have children!

the counselors told me if i havent seen anything yet than i may ot see any outbreas… and then online i read that it causes about 5 outbreaks a year?? i dont know who to belive or what to expect?

Not everybody that has herpes is going to experience it the exact same way. When someone is sharing an experience about having herpes it doesn’t always mean that you will experience the same things either. Some people get outbreak all the time, some only some of the time, and other never really experience outbreaks at all.

i defintely dont want to be with any girls for a while.. can i resume with my life the way it was before i found out i was positive? some websites say herpes is more of nuicance than a medical problem.. is that true?

Hey, sometimes it’s a good idea to take a break from dating all together if you are constantly always having to be in a relationship or can’t seem to function without having a boyfriend or a girlfriend. I would say that it’s important to love yourself before you try maintaining a relationship with somebody.

Those web sites are right about herpes! Having herpes is really not that big of a deal once you get your mind wrapped around it.

i havent been doing my job correctly and my boss has been on me this past week about my performance… is this how i should be acting?

You should not allow having herpes to affect your word performance. There is just no reason for it.. you don’t want to lose your job because you are unable to focus and complete your tasks at work, right?

is there any health complications from this?

No, not at all. At least not that I can think of.

can i get married and have kids just like my parents and have a family? thanks so much.. sorry for the questions.. i just feel like my life just ended and thats all im thining about.. maybe im freaking out becuase i just found a few days ago.. thanks again

Of course you can get married and have a family and children! I want you to take a look at a couple more page on my web site that I think you will find helpful: Herpes Biography & Herpes Telling

See if those links will be helpful for you & hang in there. You are not alone and your life is not over. Not by a long shot!