Great tip if you are starting to date again!
People are attracted to and are far more likely to stay with confident people. You attract what you project. If, you can’t see your self worth and feel your are defined by circumstance then others will see it to. If, you try and reason out and understand why others wouldn’t date you because of herpes then I would say, “no” you can’t see who you are. You can’t see that you are the same person before you were infected. You and only you can determine your outcome. If, you will only date in the herpes community. Feel that everyone will automatically “run”. Have a why bother attitude. Feel defected in some way. Herpes didn’t do this to you. You did it to yourself.
When, I was first dx I felt this way. I did this to myself, not herpes. After a while, I actually saw it as an opportunity for growth. To grow more spiritual, find out who I really was and wanted. Honestly, I don’t think I would have accomplished as much as I have in the last 15 months, since, my dx if I didn’t have this. Adversity can be used as an a tool to bring you down and keep you there or growth if you choose it to. I have noticed the change in me along with those around me. All in a very positive way.
I, personally belong to the Christian community. And, we have MANY MANY members that are in discordant relationships. (One has it and one doesn’t). And, a true Christian would think it WRONG to not see someone based on herpes. If, a Christian “ran” from me. I would give them the Bible and tell them to read it again.
If, I didn’t have it. And, I considered not seeing someone that did. I would be EMBARASSED if anyone I knew how I felt. So, it is obviously which route I would take.
Date everyone. Reverse discrimination is wrong. Plus, statistically, speaking 75% of the non-herpes population will go into a discordant relationship. For those, who have had bad experiences in the telling, you just happened to be with the 25%. Those are the 25% I would consider it a blessing to have not wasted any more of my time than needed.
I can be blunt in my posts. But, I remember when first signing on to PUP. Angela didn’t sugar coat things with me. And, I’m thankful that she didn’t. It help me move at a quicker pace. So, Angela, thank you. More than you know. - L
* L is a regular member on PUP as well as an H Pal. She had sent out this post one day during a conversation that we were having over there. I thought it was so good that I asked if I could have permission to post it here on my blog. She agreed.
If you have any advice OR words of wisdom that you would like me to share here on my blog I hope you will send it to me AND give me your blessing to post it! Thanks for your time! 
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