Sexual Health Buzz

i am a 32 year old male my girlfriend age 40 gave me herpes she did not tell me she had it she hid it from me i would have used protection

I got this note today thinking they actually wanted my advice on the matter. I tried to write the person back but was unable to because of some sort of blocking mechanism going on. I’m not THAT much of a computer geek so I just assumed the person rigged it that way on purpose.

In any case, I thought I would go ahead and post my thoughts anyway:

Dear 32 year old male,

I’m almost positive that your 40 year old girlfriend did not put a gun to your head and force you to have sex with her.

How do you know that your girlfriend even had herpes in the first place? What if you already had herpes and you didn’t know it?

What kind of protection would you have used? There isn’t any kind of protection that I know of that will 100% keep you from getting herpes. Condoms don’t cover the entire genital area so it’s still possible to contract herpes even if you did use protection.

The facts remain that you and your girlfriend probably did not sit down and talk about STDs OR make a date to go and get tested for STDs. In fact, you probably didn’t even know that herpes isn’t included in the routine STD testing process. You have to actually request a herpes test in order to have one and that’s only IF your doctor is even up-to-date on his/or her herpes facts.

Besides.. how do you know that you didn’t already have it prior to meeting your 40 year old girlfriend?