Positive Telling Experience
Posted on Friday, June 26th, 2009 at 5:07 PM
Just wanted to pass along a positive experience I had the other night since this is always a big question for me. I was on a second date with a guy who is really into me. After a movie, dinner, and a couple of drinks, we were in the car and it was the moment of “do I drop you off or bring you home with me”? He wanted me to bring him back to my place. I told him that I would love to make out with him but I didn’t want to go too fast. He said that he too didn’t want to “have sex”. After a few minutes of agonizing over what to say, I told him the following:
“One of the reasons that I want to go slow is that I have herpes. If we have sex I want to do it conscientiously and intelligently. It’s harder for a man to get herpes from a woman and I am on medication which decreases the chances more, but it’s still possible.”
He said something about using condoms and I told him that that’s not 100% but that I have a couple of friends who have been in long-term relationships with men who haven’t gotten it. Then he said that he really liked me and it was ok.
I took him home and we had a great make-out session!
Kudos to you! How is it going since? I had a similar experience— for the moment everything seemed “OK”, and I was ecstatic. But then things got “weird” I didn’t hear from him for a few days…we actually got together once after, but then he faded out of the picture. we were probably not all that compatible anyway, but I was a little “hurt” that I didn’t hear from him…