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Hi

I don’t even know who im writing this to…

My name is Kxxxxx and im 26 yrs old. I was just told by my doctor that I have herpes type 2. Im scared. I dont know who to talk to, Ive told my best friend and thats it. I dont know how to tell my mom. I dont have a boyfriend so thats good. But theres a part of me thats even scared to date, I dont know how to react. can I ask you some questions…

1. can i spread Herpes within my wn body with the use of a vibrator or masterbate?

Once you contract the herpes virus you keep it for good. Also…once those herpes antibodies have developed…you are not likely going to pass herpes to other parts of your body. However, I would not share vibrators with other people, etc…if you know what I mean.

2. can i spread Herpes to my partner when NOT having an outbreak? (kissing, holding hands, touching…)

It’s possible to pass herpes even if there are no signs or symptoms present through something called asymptomatic shedding. But even under those circumstances the virus has to be active and on the surface of the skin and the environment has to be just right. Usually herpes is passed when the virus is active on the surface of the skin through kissing, oral sex, anal sex or just genital to genital regular sex.

3. Can i have kids? will I pass this on to them?

Of course you can have kids! Since you are already aware of your status then so will your doctor be aware as well. You’ll be able to prevent your baby from contracting it from you. It’s the pregnant Mom’s that don’t know they have herpes OR their partner’s status for that matter. This is another reason why herpes testing is so important for screening as well as knowing the status of your partner.

4. since my infected area is on my left hip. Will it ever go into my genitals?

Well….just because you have outbreaks on your left hip doesn’t meant that you don’t have genital herpes. People that have genital herpes tend to have outbreaks anywhere below the belt line. The virus sleeps in the ganglia at the base of the spine and when it awakens and travels the nerve pathways to the surface can essentially show up anywhere below the belt line but usually in the boxer shorts area. Yours just happen to be in the hip area. But then again….how do you know if what you have in your hip area is actually herpes? Did you ever have a culture done of a sore that appeared? What did your doctor tell you?

5. Will I ever be able to have unprotected sex with a long term partner? husband?

Of course you will! Why would you think otherwise? Life goes forward even after a herpes diagnosis. You can live a full and complete life with a partner who is totally devoted to YOU, herpes or not.

Im not sure if you can help me… I just dont know who to ask.

pls help me… thank you …

I appreciate you writing to me and asking the questions. Thanks for allowing me to answer your questions on my blog so that we can help others out there that might have the same questions.

If you have more questions be sure and check out our Shut Up and Post! STD Message Board, k?