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Hi, I’m Faith

I was diagnosed with HSV2 in the Fall of 2006. I went through all the emotions. I went through betrayal (non-disclosure), feeling un dateable, diseased, and angry. I thought that no man would ever want to date me and that I could only date those that had HSV2. Negativity had engulfed me.

In time, I realized that I had control. Not the virus. It was my reactions that had caused all my emotional pain. I was my worse enemy. Thereafter, all those bad feelings I had, were now in the PAST. It was a hard journey, but with a lot of praying and reflection with my “life tools”, it is now a minimal part of my life.

My dating life hasn’t changed much. I date someone based on character, not the commonality of a virus. My standards are the same before and after my diagnosis. I refuse to settle because of some manageable “little bug”. I’ve learned to “squash” this pesky bug when it tries to enter into my mind. I call these squashing mechanisms my “life tools”.. Since, having herpes, my convictions have become stronger. I am more determined and my spirituality has soared.

I am a board member of my local support group and a moderator for our local social group. I have done a lot of research on this virus and have spoken with a virologist who specializes in STDs.

I know of many success stories and I’m here to tell you that it only is as big as a part of your life as you let it become. I strongly believe in herpes advocacy. I do understand the pain of those newly diagnosed or those who’s timetable in coming to terms with it … might take a while longer.. I welcome questions or concerns that you might have.

I’m here to help……

Write to me any time

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It’s been awhile since we’ve heard from Faith. I’m not sure where she went but I’m sure she will be back soon. If you need to talk to an H Pal you are more than welcome to send feedback. We also have a couple of online support groups: Shut Up and Post! STD Message Board as well as Picking Up the Pieces.