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What do you think of Positive Singles?

I really want to know. I want to know if you’ve tried it and whether or not you like it.

I also want to know if you found your significant other on Positive Singles and if you are living happily ever after.

Send me your story so I can put it up on the site, ok?

I think it’s so important for people to realize that unconditional love is very cool. Especially if you find the right one. It means the person you are with loves you for who you are.

I also would like to know if you still had the talk even though you met on Positive Singles. The reason why I mention this is because many people choose Positive Singles because they feel it takes the awkwardness out of having the talk. But I think you still have to have that discussion no matter which online dating site you choose.

Let me know what you think, ok?

I can’t wait to share your story. Also, if you would like to share your feedback and story please note that you may do so anonymously and/or via first names only.

Thanks Friends!

Check out Positive Singles and then write me back and let me know how it worked out for you!

If you don’t want to limit yourself to niche dating sites then check out some of the other online dating sites I’ve put together for you.

Keep an open mind because you’ll never know who you might find! It doesn’t hurt to look, right?

My opinion, when I found out I had H in 2001, I continued to date men that did not have it. I did not pursue the “feeling them out” beforehand or to ask questions because I did not see the point. It really gets down to how someone feels about you, REALLY feels about you. I kept sex out of it for many months. When I felt that things were going to head in that direction then I sat them down. Now, it was only two guys that I had to tell and it was a non-issue. I told them that I had something to discuss with them. I also let them know during the conversation that I wasn’t given a choice and I was giving them one, that if I didn’t care about them and was a selfish person, I could have kept my mouth shut. We moved on from that and it was no big deal for either of them.

After those two relationships ended, I grew tired and stressed about having to have to tell someone, and there is always that fear of rejection. So I went to the dating sites of people that already have it and found it to be what was best for me. I continued to be on regular dating sites but met the man of my dreams on an H site and couldn’t be happier.

I would not consume myself with what to say, how to say it, posing questions, it could be overwhelming. I would focus on what type of person he/she truly is, may turn out that it’s someone that you don’t want to spend more time with. Are they thoughtful, kind, successful, open minded, easy-going, a good friend, brother, sister, father, whatever.

Mostly for now, just listen, really listen when they talk. You will learn so much by doing that and you will get the answers you need in many ways without having to pose scenarios and questions.

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Talk about How to Tell Your Partner

The right time to tell is anytime before you become intimate with them. Some believe that you should tell early so, if they do bolt, you haven’t invested very many emotions in them. Personally, I don’t think that sex should come up in the relationship until at least two months of dating so you can actually get to know each other. Sex really complicates things if you think about it. If it’s good, you overlook a lot of quirks that would normally be ‘deal breakers’ … if it’s ‘bad’, you’re not as likely to give a potentially great person a chance. Beyond all that, it is consistently awesome once there are real emotions involved.

There is a lot of information on Angela’s site about having The Talk and real experiences with it. Knowledge is power. Whatever you do, DO NOT attempt The Talk until you can answer ALL of their questions. The more calm (not crying, blaming, etc.) you are, the better received the information will be. As common as this is, you might be surprised to learn that they have it, too. Always insist on a blood test before becoming intimate because, as you may know already, up to 90% of those that have HSV2 don’t even know it and wouldn’t without a type-specific blood test. It’s NOT included in routine STD testing and, unfortunately, doctors don’t even tell you that they aren’t testing for it. It’s simply too common, too expensive and not life-threatening. You really don’t want to get into a situation where they actually have it but don’t have outbreaks then, once they experience their first, YOU are to blame even though you weren’t. Know what I mean?

Besides, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, AIDS and certain strains of HPV is clearly WORSE and you really don’t want it. What I did was limit my dating to people in the same club until I got my mojo back (lol) but I wouldn’t encourage anyone to stick to that type of thinking. YOU are worthy … just give yourself some time to realize that, okay?

I’ve been working on a couple of updates and wanted to share them with you. Usually what that requires is me getting caught up on all of my e-mails, adding new stuff to the site, and getting new projects implemented. So here is some fun stuff I hope y’all will enjoy!!!

1.) We have a Brand NEW H Pal. Her name is Dianne and she’s representing the great state of Louisiana.

2.) We also have a Brand NEW Story to share with you called, “My Fairytale Ending.” I think you will be inspired!!!

3.) Recently folks have written in and have some strong opinions about my site, dmso, and abreva. So I’ve taken the liberty to record those comments so you can see what others have to say about it. Feel free to chime in and I will be happy to post your thoughts on all of that too. I am proud to say that we have more positive feedback, than negative, when it comes to my site yoshi2me.com, and for that I am grateful.

4.) I saved the best for last. We now have a Photo V.I.P. Room | Show Us Your Happy Face forum over on the Shut Up N Post! STD Message board. What is that you ask? Well, that is a V.I.P. Member only forum where people can send me their photos to have posted in there. The only way you can gain access is to post your photo. Once you have me post your photo, you can get in. The pictures are private, the search engines will not index them, and nobody but the V.I.P.’s can see them. What a great way to get to know each other on a more personal level. All you singles out there not only have a place to post your personal add, but now you can be a V.I.P. and share your picture without having to worry about it getting out. You can also have your photos removed at any time. See the Message Board for additional details.

That’s all I have for now. I hope everybody is doing well. Feel free to share this note with those that you think may find it beneficial. Have a Great Weekend!! – Angela

I met my special someone through this website Positive Singles and I was just diagnosed in Jan 2007. I came home for a vacation last Dec 2006 from UK. I figured out that the guy who gave this to me was the guy I was dating in UK for 1 year and a half. He broke up with me when I told him about the Herpes. It is good as I have tested negative for HIV and other STDs including Herpes when I started going out with him. So I was sure that I got it from him though he denies it until now.

I finally decided to come back to Canada for good and with a thought that I will be happy to spend the rest of my life single if I will not meet someone who will accept me as I am. Sometime in October 2007 while searching for more information about Herpes, I came across Positive Singles, I tried it, saying to myself, nothing to lose. I was amazed how many responses I got, and as any other dating website, you have to screen the qualities of persons you want to meet. At least, you don’t have to discuss Herpes but it is also good to know what other stuff they have.

It also boils down to whether or not you have chemistry, the same qualities, same values, sexual compatibility, etc. I do agree that there are websites that cater to specific needs of people. Whether you have herpes or not, you still have to determine what you want. Having Herpes is just one issue that you at least don’t have to talk over. I do agree that you should not limit yourself to people with herpes only but you have to be strong and determine not to be hurt when you disclose your status and that you will be ready for all the rejection and all the stigma and ignorance from people about herpes.

I don’t think having herpes had been a problem with my partner, much to the point that we enjoy each other even if we have our breakouts. And definitely, the more you talk about herpes, the more people understand, stigma becomes lesser. If in any occasion that I need to disclose, I made this decision that whoever I disclose to are people that I know will accept me as I am and whatever their comments will not affect me.

Have you tried Positive Singles?

See what others are saying about Positive Singles

What can I say— your site is fabulous— thank you for your encouragement, your boldness—
what a place of freedom and liberation you must be in.

It’s been 5 years for me, and I only recently gathered the courage to put a profile on PositiveSingles—no picture of course.

Dating outside of the virus isn’t working anymore— the stress is just too great.

But sites like this give me a place to be comfortable.

Thanks again for this site– I’m adding it to my favorites. – Anonymous

I hope you guys will not limit yourself to dating only those that have herpes OR any STI for that matter.

I think it’s important to take  your time getting to know the person that you are smitten with.. right?

It’s one reason why I list both herpes dating, std dating and regular online dating sites on my herpes dating page.

Think about it,  you want somebody to like you for who you are and not what you have, right?

So just take your time getting to know those that you are interested in. Go slow. You might find that knowing somebody’s heart trumps knowing about what they have.

If you love each other unconditionally everything else won’t really matter and you can just enjoy being together.

I don’t think you  have to disclose your STD status when you first meet somebody that you could potentially be interested in.

Go on some dates, get to know them, if you think there is a connection and that you are headed towards a more serious and sexually satisfying relationship then you’ll know that it’s time to sit down and talk about STD’s.

Remember,  it’s not all about you and your STD status. You  have a right to know their STD status too.

So talk about it, communicate opening and make a date to go and get tested together BEFORE you have sex. Once you do that you’ll be able to  handle anything as a couple that may come your way.

If you found this post to be of help OR you have any questions at all, please feel free to leave a comment. I’d love to hear from you.

We also have a message board where you can leave a free personal profile. It’s been slow going at first but more and more people are starting to utilize this free service and many people are meeting one another and making new friends in the process.

Thanks and have a great day  ya’ll! : ) – Angela

I am in the middle of a break-up because of my situation. I told him exactly 8 days ago. He was so understanding at first and told me he would need to educate himself but he would not bail on me.

We have seen each other two times since the bomb dropping and he was fine the first night, distant the second night. He used to email me every night and abruptly stopped. I know it’s over – just hasn’t been voiced yet.

He is the first man I have told I loved them in 12 years. This hurts – it sucks – it’s not fair. I want to scream and cry and tell him I am the same person I was 8 days ago that he was saying he could see marrying. Of course then he would leave because I was pyscho – Damn stigma.

All the depression and loneliness I felt when I found out I had it has come rushing back. My friends are very supportive about my relationship breaking-up but they don’t know why. It hurts when people don’t understand why you don’t have a boyfriend because and I quote “you are such a sweet beautiful person.” Ugh, if they only knew.

I am trying a dating site for guys in the same boat. It has taken me so long to trust that someone could see past this, but apparently a skin condition outweighs compatibility. I wish all of you the best of love and life. A full life with people you can trust who do not see you as your situation, but for you.

I met my boyfriend through Shut Up and Post! and Positive Singles. We first started talking through emails. Then we met at a public place for dinner. We started talking on the phone every night and still do.

It has been about a year since we first met. He is just the most wonderful guy ever. He makes me smile, He has a great sense of humor, He cooks for me, He asks me about my day and he wants to take me places. We spend every other weekend together when we are not talking on the phone.

We are both going back to college to better ourselves. When we are not together I feel like there is a piece of me missing. I do hope that someday he will ask me to marry him. Because I would like to spend the rest of my life with him.

I am slowly getting him and my son and family used to each other and it is going well. I have never been happier. I didn’t think there were any nice guys left until I met him. But now I know there are.

Read more inspirational stories today!

If you’d like me to share your story about how you met your significant other please send it to me. I will be more than happy to post it. I think the more stories about how people are finding each other and falling in love the easier it will be for those newly diagnosed to see that your love life doesn’t have to end. You just have to find the right person OR let the right person find you!

Visit Positive Singles

POSITIVESINGLES.COM adds new feature: “Ask STD counselor” – adding more support for its members than just dating services.

Finding your match when you are suffering from an STD can be easier than you think. Starting from January 15, 2008, members at PositiveSingles.com can ask a STD counselor questions as well as continuing to enjoy updated information about all STDs, various STD forums, uploading pictures, sending e-mails or winks to other members and you can have a limited free membership.

Thousands of people get STDs and don’t realize it. Having an STD could lead to confusion, resentment, anger, and isolating of yourself. One might even be filled with many questions.

According to the CDC, there are over 65 million Americans currently living with an STD, 19 million new STD infections each year, one in three sexually active men and women living with Herpes, and about 50% of all sexually active Americans are affected by HPV.

With STDs, many people are afraid to reach out to the people whom they are closest to. The stigma attached to people with infectious diseases suddenly becomes personal. They are afraid of losing friendships and family altogether. This fear can quickly become a reality due to a lack of education.

PositiveSingles.com recently added a STD counselor to the site that has accurate information about STDs. The information that the STD counselor provides covers the most updated information about STDs. The STD counselor can answer such questions as: where to get HPV shots, support group listings, counseling services, relationship questions or any other questions a STD sufferer might have. Information regarding STD testing are also provided when requested.

Members get quality information in addition to the core dating services. Thousands of people on PositiveSingles.com meet, date and get married. Before the members meet they can talk to someone who is facing the same issues that they are facing and share with someone who has the same concerns. By talking about these issues, members can learn new ways to approach a person and stay emotionally stable. Some of the members of PositiveSingles.com are learning how to deal an STD that changed their lives. Some people are looking for a local relationship or partner who lives nearby. The sharing and support of a problem creates a healthy and positive atmosphere.

About PositiveSingles.com

PositiveSingles.com was launched in 08-Aug-2002, and markets its services around the world. The founding team’s vision is to build a community for people with STDs, where they can find friendship, support, and love! It is ranked the #1 website for online dating for those with STDs. 3/5 of those members are living with HSV, 1/5 with HIV/AIDS, 1/10 with HPV. There are more STDs. Hundreds of members join every day. Beyond the networking of relationships, PositiveSingles.com has medical information and success stories. Those affected by a disease and those around them are staying positive and strong. The family and friends of an individual with an STD can be very supportive as well.

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