Comments on: Talk About Telling

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:20:15 +0000

Positive Singles is a very good online herpes dating site. If you'd like to check out others you can always take a look at my Herpes Dating page too. BUT, I have to tell you... I list regular dating sites over there as well because I don't believe that people have to limit themselves. Good luck with your search.

By: lifeboat1

lifeboat1 — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:38:06 +0000

Well, so much for that relationship! Mr. Wonderful thought about it–it only took a day for Mr. Hot-n-heavy to turn into Mr. Freeze. It was very discouraging, to say the least. So,it’s back to the H-sites…don’t think I can handle anymore of those “conversations” and rejections. Does anyone know if singlesdotnet is for positive singles? I saw it advertised on the H-site but it doesn’t require “disclosure”…

By: lifeboat1

lifeboat1 — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 22:01:02 +0000

Thanks Angela. I actually brought it up last night with him–he seemed ok with it…asked some questions, and yet asked if he was going to see me over the weekend, believe it or not. Thankfully he wasn’t freaked out! We did talk about his status–he hasn’t been tested in 5 years, but thinks he’s STD free.(no symptoms) Anyway, I thought he might need time and is probably checking out the facts online, so, who knows how he’ll feel about it after he gets the whole scoop…Keep your fingers crossed for me! Thanks and God belss…

By: Angela

Angela — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 21:16:30 +0000

Take your time getting to know this new person. It’s time to put sex on the back burner and just go slow. See if there is a connection and similar interests. GO SLOW. If and when you think things are progressing then you can sit down and talk about your status. But please don’t forget to talk about your partner’s status too. Just because you have herpes doesn’t mean your health is any less important.

By: lifeboat

lifeboat — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 00:52:10 +0000

I’ve tried an H-site.I found it to be easier also regarding not having the stress of having to have the “conversation”.I met a couple of decent people, but I found very few to choose from, unfortunately. So, I went back to a non-positive site where I just met a really wonderful man–we’ve been on about three dates; we’re attracted to each other so I know at some point soon it’s going to go to the next level. Your approach to the conversation seems sound. I fear this would have a major impact on the sexual part of the relationship.