Sexual Health Buzz

The right time to tell is anytime before you become intimate with them. Some believe that you should tell early so, if they do bolt, you haven’t invested very many emotions in them. Personally, I don’t think that sex should come up in the relationship until at least two months of dating so you can actually get to know each other. Sex really complicates things if you think about it. If it’s good, you overlook a lot of quirks that would normally be ‘deal breakers’ … if it’s ‘bad’, you’re not as likely to give a potentially great person a chance. Beyond all that, it is consistently awesome once there are real emotions involved.

There is a lot of information on Angela’s site about having The Talk and real experiences with it. Knowledge is power. Whatever you do, DO NOT attempt The Talk until you can answer ALL of their questions. The more calm (not crying, blaming, etc.) you are, the better received the information will be. As common as this is, you might be surprised to learn that they have it, too. Always insist on a blood test before becoming intimate because, as you may know already, up to 90% of those that have HSV2 don’t even know it and wouldn’t without a type-specific blood test. It’s NOT included in routine STD testing and, unfortunately, doctors don’t even tell you that they aren’t testing for it. It’s simply too common, too expensive and not life-threatening. You really don’t want to get into a situation where they actually have it but don’t have outbreaks then, once they experience their first, YOU are to blame even though you weren’t. Know what I mean?

Besides, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, AIDS and certain strains of HPV is clearly WORSE and you really don’t want it. What I did was limit my dating to people in the same club until I got my mojo back (lol) but I wouldn’t encourage anyone to stick to that type of thinking. YOU are worthy … just give yourself some time to realize that, okay?