Recently Diagnosed with Herpes

Were you recently diagnosed with herpes?

I know you probably feel a bit overwhelmed and thoughts are probably swirling around in your mind about your recent herpes diagnosis.

Hang in there and know that you are not alone.

We’ve got a couple of great forums with caring people that would love to help you get through this time of uncertainty.

Picking Up the Pieces

Shut Up and Post! STD Message Board

I can tell you there are many wonderful caring people on these message forums who volunteer their time to just help people see there is truly a light at the end of the tunnel.

You won’t always feel this way.

Yahoo Groups Category Errors

I am having trouble changing the category on our Yahoo Group: Picking Up the Pieces (PUP). For some strange reason Yahoo Groups thinks Picking Up the Pieces should be listed under Romans & Relationships/Adult.

I’ve been trying to assign the correct category for a few days now and I don’t seem to be getting anywhere. I’m also having trouble figuring out how Yahoo Groups can fix this problem. I’ve tried to contact Yahoo Customer Care and keep running into dead ends.

On the actual Yahoo Group I’ve selected “management” and then “control panel.” Once inside the control panel you scroll about halfway down the page where it says “assign category” and click on the drop down option. From there I choose “health & wellness” to “support” to “diseases & conditions” then click the save button. Then an option pops up that says, “are you sure, you want to change group settings?” Yes! Yes, I’m sure I want to change group settings. So then I click the “save” button. What I get from there is nothing, nada, zip, zilch, zero, yadda yadda. You get the idea.

I’ve been trying to make this change for a few days now and absolutely no success! Then I think to myself, okay—all I need to do is contact customer care. So, I do! I attempt to contact Yahoo Help/Customer Care. I go to their page and select “groups” as the product, “errors” as the category, after that I select a sub-category of “my issue does not appear in the list.” So then the prompt tells me to “briefly tell us what we can help” at which point I enter into the space in my own words “yahoo group category errors.” Nothing—I get nothing after that.

In the meantime Picking Up the Pieces is in the wrong category! On top of that, I am unable to change the group picture. It’s not that I don’t like the picture; I think the picture is great. But, being able to change the picture would be nice—ya know?

I have no other ideas how to get this issue resolved. Do you have any suggestions for me? Have you noticed the new Yahoo Groups format? What do you think of the new format? Are you a Yahoo Group moderator or owner who is experiencing the same errors I am? Were you able to get through to anyone over at Yahoo? Were they helpful? Can you send them my way?

A Note from Me to You


I love getting comments on this blog but more importantly I really enjoy receiving legit comments. I’m not a fan of spam.

At one point this blog was getting hit with so much spam I couldn’t take it any more so I changed to the settings so that comments need to be approved before they can actually be published.

Sometimes ya just have to do what you can with what you have and that’s what I’m trying to do.

I think people appreciate it more when the comments actually pertain to the discussions we are trying to have around here.

If you have a question, want to voice your opinion, or share additional information that is fine and I hope you’ll leave a comment. Please be patient with me. I will approve your comments when I’m checking my personal e-mails.

I think the discussions we have around here no matter how old the thread is show how important these topics are for many people.

If you need to reach me privately and not on the blog or the message boards please use the contact button at the top of the blog.

If you have a question or just want to share your story e-mail me your stories and share your original questions on the message boards. We have two excellent forums that have been around for awhile: Picking Up the Pieces and Shut Up and Post! STD Message Board.

The stories that are shared on this blog are done so anonymously and the reviews for products that are sent in come from real people who have tried them personally.

Remember, I’m not a doctor. I’m here to share my experiences, strengths and hopes with people on their journey towards healing. Everyone experiences healing at different times depending on their circumstances. I’ve had some time to read, learn, network and just want to see people happy.

Oh, and I will be posting a lot more as my life is taking a turn and I’m able to put more time into the things that I’m passionate about. Thanks for being patient with me.

Need someone to talk to?

I’ve got two online support groups to share with you:

1. Picking Up the Pieces

2. Shut Up and Post! STD Message Board

Here’s an excellent resource if you’re trying to find ACCURATE information about Herpes Simplex Virus aka: HSV aka: Cold Sores aka: Fever Blisters:

The Updated Herpes Handbook > View the Chapters > Download the Handbook > Buy the Handbook (Available in Spanish too)

PUP Gratitude

I wanted to stop in and express my gratitude for the person who started this group, and those that keep it going. It was a great relief for me to find people who have experience and knowledge with this issue. I have navigated around the site and found the HPV group (they don’t post as often) reading past posts has helped me sooo much. Not feeling alone in all of thus and relating to the emotions is such a blessing. This group is where I started in my search for a group, I am forever grateful to the good hearted folks in here.


Stay Amazing!

Hello, my name is C, and I’ve had herpes since the summer of 1987, at age 22.

I’ve been a member of PUP for a long time – over 5 years, I think. I mostly read, sometimes comment when inspired, and feel I have something positive to contribute. My heart aches for each and every new member who finds their way to this group, while simultaneously feeling relieved they were able to make it here to us! We have some of the most amazing moderators and knowledgeable contributors anywhere, people dedicated to educating, directing, advising, soothing, and just plain listening.

When I was first diagnosed, there was no such thing as the internet. The doctor gave me my diagnosis, gave me zovirax ointment, and told me to urinate in a tub of warm water. I think he gave me a pamphlet that said I had to tell prospective sexual partners, but that part is fuzzy. The only people I told was my one girlfriend who drove me to the doctor, and my cheating boyfriend. I never discussed it with either of them ever again. Over the years, my mother came to know – we don’t talk about it. I have one girlfriend I told when I was pregnant, only because she was my birthing coach – we don’t discuss it. The father of my daughter, well he had HSV2 already, and beyond the first “telling,” we didn’t discuss it. I’ve been with my current boyfriend for over 5 years, and I told him before we were intimate, and we’ve talked about it in passing 3 or 4 times over the years (he’s still negative).

I guess my point is that I don’t talk about having herpes, to anyone, other than on PUP. Over the past 23 years, I never talked to anyone about how it really made me feel – like everyone here at some point – ashamed, dirty, useless, unworthy, despondent, desperate, lonely, afraid, sad, angry, pathetic, etc. I’ve come to terms with my H over the years, have it all straight in my head, and it’s mostly a non-issue for me. I don’t hate the giver. I don’t like having H, but don’t have regrets that make me morose. It’s such a minute part of who I am.

I find it very neat that so many of you have friends you can talk to about how you feel about having herpes. You’re SO incredibly lucky to have them, and to have found PUP. If some of you are like I was, and don’t really feel like you have the sort of friendships that can support you during this difficult time, please come here often to get the encouragement you need to make it through your days.

Hugs all around!
Stay Amazing!