There are many times I get feedback from folks that I feel is powerful enough to want to share it with the rest of you! Before I share though I always write to the person that sent their e-mail to make sure it’s ok with them first. I don’t ever post anything unless I have permission to from the author OR unless I can find it on a public message board. Anyway, thought ya’ll would find this to be of interest…
I came across your Yoshi2me web site today while doing some internet searches for information on herpes. I am a 24-year-old woman, and just last week I tested positive for HSV-2 while experiencing my first outbreak. Since then I have been going through a roller coaster of thoughts and feelings. One day I feel fine about it and the next day I find myself freaking out! Half my brain is trying to be rational and say, hey, it isn’t cancer or anything, but the other half of my brain just wants to cry and cry.
It was really rewarding for me to read the very personal accounts on your web site and recognize the success of so many people in leading happy lives in spite of this virus. Your site helped me to realize that this diagnosis is not the end of the world, or the end of my romantic life, or anything more than one of life’s little challenges. I really appreciate you having the courage and frankness to open up to others about your experience and create a place like Yoshi2me where people can come together and support one another.
I am fairly certain that I contracted the disease from my boyfriend of five years, who left me several months ago. When he left, I learned that he had been having an extended affair with a married woman and had probably been unfaithful in the past as well. All that infidelity combined with our unprotected sex (since I thought it was a long-term monogamous relationship headed towards marriage!) would have provided easy circumstances for transmission. I was already suffering from issues of betrayed trust at the end of this relationship, and learning about my herpes diagnosis made it even worse.
However, I am very fortunate to now be in love with a much better person. We had only been together for a few weeks when I learned about my positive diagnosis. We were already very close and very committed even after such a short time, but I was terrified that this news would scare him off entirely. On the contrary, though, he is very supportive and says that this diagnosis has no impact on how he feels about me. He told me, “I love you and I intend to spend the rest of my life with you. I don’t ever intend to have sex with anyone else. So frankly I don’t care if you and/or we have herpes. We’ll have it, and we’ll deal with it, and it won’t be the end of the world. It won’t ever change how much I love you.”
Having that kind of support has really helped me through these first couple of weeks. Finding web sites like Yoshi2me provides an indescribable amount of help as well!!
Anyway, I apologize for this email’s length and personal content, but I really wanted to thank you for creating a site that helps herpes patients feel like normal, beautiful, and worthwhile people instead of lepers and outcasts. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Note from Angela:
Thanks so much Erin for sharing your story with me and for allowing me to share it with others. I know there is probably one person out there who feels they are alone. They are going to read your story and hopefully realize that there is some light at the end of the dark tunnel they have found themselves in.
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