Having herpes encouraged me to be picky

This past weekend my boyfriend and I broke up, it was because of the ‘h’ but for other issues. We had not slept together yet, but it was just because it didnt feel like the right time to me.

After we broke up I realized he was just telling me what he thought I wanted to hear hoping that it would make the situation feel right, and then I would sleep with him.

Right after we broke up he went and found someone to sleep with.

Herpes can be a real drag, but it has encouraged me to be more picky about who I see and have the talk with. I am glad that I had the talk with him, but even more glad that I had strength in myself enough to not sleep with him.

Herpes does not change the person you are or make you any less of a wonderful catch. It took me a while to figure this out, and even longer to actually have the strength to stand up to him and tell that I would not let him keep treating me like shit.

It has been hard to see him with someone else, but I know I am better off without him.

I just needed to tell someone.

–Anonymous

4 thoughts on “Having herpes encouraged me to be picky

  1. really inspiring to hear that! way to go, it takes strength and courage to be a person like that and that deserves respect.
    Big up/

  2. I think everyone should be picky when they are dating or looking for someone to spend the rest of their life with. Don’t You?

  3. Hey, Ive recently started dating a girl who told me she had the ‘h’, which I respect her so much for… because we were getting hot and heavy and she stopped and said theres something I should tell you, and I’ll understand if you want to walk away.
    I didnt walk away mind, for one shes amazing and even more sexy now that I know shes honest, We calmed down and lay together and just spoke about it, I asked questions and I found out she seemed more afraid with passing it onto me than I was afraid of contracting it.
    At the minute weve not had sex, mainly I’m researching the best way to keep the ‘h’ from passing on to me, and also a way that we can both feel relaxed and enjoy being with eachother. At the moment we’re enjoying curling up on the sofa, watching movies, going for walks, talking (both about the ‘h’ and general stuff) and she can still seemingly drive me wild with a kiss of the neck… Damn that woman hehe.

    Good luck to everyone with the dating of it. My researching has found it has a major stigma attached that it simply doesnt deserve, yes it demands respect like any virus does. but feared? no, I dont think so!

  4. Hi GForce ~ I know it’s been awhile since you posted your note but I wanted to go ahead and chime in just in case more people are reading through this thread. I think the first thing you should do is get yourself tested because you may already have herpes but just don’t know. Keep in mind that herpes is not included in the routine STD testing process so be sure you ask a lot of questions. The very best way to protect yourself would be to make sure that your partner is on suppressive therapy and that you use condoms when you’re going to have sex. I’m sure you’ve had time to figure things out. I hope you’ll stop back by and let us know how things are working out for you.

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