He loves me for who I am

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My story is some what like yours.

A 2+ year relationship broke up. After being asked out for 6 months by a client I accepted. One thing lead to another and we had sex.

Long story short his girlfriend of 7 years contacted me to let me know he has herpes. I got tested and sure enough I have it. Since then My ex-boyfriend and I have got back together. I told him right away I was positive for herpes. He said he didn’t care, loves me anyway and we will deal with it together.

Now that’s love.

I was diagnosed December 2007. My boyfriend and I plan on getting married in March. He doesn’t know about the other guy, doesn’t ask and doesn’t care.

He loves me for who I am and not for what I have.

The number eight means new beginning, if you turn it sideways it is the symbol for infinity. 2008 is an infinite new beginning for my boyfriend and I.

Thanks so much for your story. Thanks for listening to mine.

22 thoughts on “He loves me for who I am

  1. I really hope my relationship turns out that way. My boyfriend of 3 months just found out. He seems ok, but I just hope we can work through it. I rally care for him!

  2. Hi Courtney,

    Have you guys talked about making a date to go and get STD tested together?

    After all, you have a right to know what his status is too.

  3. I just found out today that I have herpes. After I left the doctors office I called my BF up and told him that I had herpes… we dont know yet if he has herpes or not. He told me that it doesnt matter if he has it or not he loves me and is not going to leave me! I was so happy!

  4. I found out 4 days ago that I have herpes. After leaving the Dr’s office, I went strait to my BF house and told him the news. He told me it’s hard for him because, I treat him so good. He dosen’t know what he is supose to do or how react. I hope he will accept me agian and that herpes isn’t who I am. I hope my story has a happy ending.

  5. I just found out that i have herpes on tuesday the 29th. I got it from this guy that i’ve been seeing but it was from a cold sore on his mouth. I called him and told him what had happened. I was already so upset about everything and then he said that cant happen and was being kind of mean. Then 20 mins later he called and asked if we could talk about it he felt so bad that he did this to me and he was said he understood if i never wanted to talk to him. I told him i wanted to see him and he came down rented me movies brought me ice cream helped me pay for my meds and he wants to be with me and i love him! I hope we last and we get married!

  6. When I found out I had herpes last month, I was scared and upset and I still am. I try to be strong but its so hard. Its hard enough to find someone but even harder when you have herpes. When I am in a situation that involves kissing or touching, I cant enjoy it bc I am so worried about how to tell them I have this. I have only told 3 people, my best friend, another friend and the guy that I know gave this to me. When I told the guy, he seemed shocked and upset like I was and said he was sorry and offered to pay for my meds but I didnt want him to. I just wanted him to go and get tested so that I could know for sure that I got it from him. Its been 5 weeks since I told him and he just got tested last week and he is waiting for the results. When I first told him, he said that we would still be friends. Well, it dosent seem like we are. He’s been more distant and I dont talk to him as much. I just want my life back.

  7. Missy … why not give yourself a break and just put off dating for the moment. Don’t you think you should love yourself first instead of always trying to be in a relationship with someone? Who says that you have to have a boyfriend at this exact time in your life? Who says?

  8. What advice could you guys give to someone, who isn’t infected but loves someone who is infected?
    Are there any success stories, of happy marriages, where one partner has it and the other doesn’t?

  9. Grace, I have herpes and my wife doesn’t. We’ve been together for 11 years now and she’s still not infected. I told her long before we got intimate and she figures I’m worth the risk. We’re reasonably careful, but she knows there’s a slight risk she might get it. I’m using antiviral meds suppressively to reduce the risk. She’s cool with it.

    Drop in our our support forum at http://racoon.com/cgi-bin/dcforum/dcboard.cgi any time.

  10. Hi Grace.. thanks for stopping by. I am going to take your questions and create a new blog posting with them. I think this will be helpful to so many others that have the same questions you do. Thanks for having the courage to post your questions.

  11. Hi Rajah.. I can’t believe it’s been 11 years since you were married. How Wonderful is that!? Can you believe that we have been married for 9!? Where does the time go!?

  12. Time flies when you’re having fun, Yoshi. :-) It’s been 11 wonderful years. Looking forward to a many more.

    Wow, 9 for you. Nice. Keep up the good work.

    Have you seen the latest articles about Bill Halford’s vaccine? http://herpesvaccineresearch.com has the links to the two articles published within the past week. Looking very good.

  13. Thanks for the link Raj. I have it bookmarked now so I will be sure not to forget to read through the site.

  14. Thanks so………….much Rajah for sharing your story and giving the links.
    I really really appreciate it!!!

    If I may ask, have you guys been able to have children and if so, how did you go about having children?

    @ Yoshi, thank you as well. How can I find the new blog?

  15. Wow this story is great and the comments are even better, I’ve been hesitant about dating because I’m so afraid of having to give the talk, I figure ill wait until I feel like the person I’m with is goin to be the one I spend the rest of my life with..are there anyways to start a conversation like this? What reactions should I expect, I’m so afraid of being rejected by someone id really like to be with…

  16. If I may respond to Brittney,
    As far as reactions, I think it really depends on the character of the person & how they generally feel about you.

    I happen to be the person who is not diagnosed with herpes but my friend told me about his diagnosis when we decided to date.
    It was & still is hard for me to make a decision because I love him but I really don’t want to get herpes.

    He just recently told me, so I am getting my education/info on the isssue.
    This website has also helped me.
    Thanks again Yoshi/Rajah
    Yes Yoshi, I read your story & I think its phenomal!
    It is amazing how God has used your experience to bless so many of us!

    @Brittney, I am concerned about you waiting so……long to the pt that you want the person to be the one.
    What I think you may want to keep in mind is that:
    NOT EVERYONE CAN HANDLE A CIRCUMSTANCE. IT DOESN’T MEAN YOU ARE NOT WORTH IT. IT JUST MEANS, THEY ARE NOT APT TO HANDLE SUCH A THING.
    TRY NOT TO TAKE IT PERSONAL BECAUSE NOT EVERYONE LOOKS AT YOU DIFFERENTLY BECAUSE YOU WERE DIAGNOSED W/HERPES.
    SOMETIMES THEY JUST DON’T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE IT.
    RT NOW, I WANT TO MAKE THE BEST CHOICE FOR ME & MY FRIEND. WE ARE WORKING TOGETHER TOWARDS WHAT IS THE BEST FOR THE BOTH OF US.
    I WISH YOU ALL THE BEST BRITTNEY

    & THANKS AGAIN, YOSHI & RAJAH
    Sorry for the caps, Im not really yelling; That was an accident :-)

  17. im 15 and found i had herpes when i was 14 right before christmas. they guy who gave it to me was the jock of the schoo and looked up to. he never told me and still hasnt admitted to me that he has it! i just try to move past it. ive had one partner since and i told him everything he loved me for me and accepted i had herpes but it didnt last long! i just wake up every day and am blessed its only herpes :)

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