Wonderful Accepting People!

Hi there..I haven't posted to this group in ages, but I used to read the stories of telling prospective boyfriends/girlfriends...some went well, some didn't. When I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago, I thought no man would ever want me..I was "dirty". I would only date guys with H..as I didn't think anyone would accept me.

Then I made a big mistake..thought I would get back together with my husband, who I had been separated from for over a year. I guess I was scared and lonely. Well the husband thing didn't go well..he wouldn't even have sex with me..only a couple of times with a condom..and that hurt. Turns out he didn't want to take the risk, because even though he broke up with his girlfriend when we got back together, he was back to seeing her, and had plans with her for January...oh yeah, and he moved out again before Christmas..nice..the kids enjoyed that.

Fast forward to the summer, when I decided to start to date again. Met a few guys, dated a bit, no one special. Then I met a guy from an online site. We emailed back and forth for a few days, then were going to talk on the phone, when my mom got very sick, and died within a week. He was supportive through email..and said for me to take my time, we would meet when I was ready...etc. A week later I called him, and we talked on the phone a few times before deciding to meet. Long story short..it went well, and within a month we were seeing each other pretty regularly, and I was falling for him. We hadn't had sex..I told him I wasn't going to rush into anything..and he said fine..if its six months..no problem, he would wait.

Then one morning after I stayed over..and we slept in the same bed together..I decided to tell him. We told each other a lot about our previous marriages, our mistakes, and I told him about the herpes. He said he had heard about it (he's in the healthcare field) and I told him I would give him the "westover heights" site so he could read some accurate info. I told him the risks to him, that if we were to have sex I would go back on my medication, and avoid sex if I was feeling or having an outbreak. He didn't even blink during all this, and told me that Nothing I could tell him would make him feel any different for me. He did some research, and a week later we had sex...without a condom but with me back on my medication. He was so accepting of it, and the sex was and continues to be absolutely the best I have ever had!!!

I was so scared to tell him, I was agonizing over it for weeks..how I would say it, what he would say..so I finally just did it..and it was a huge weight off my shoulders. I was so happy he took it well..and I certainly would have been upset if he rejected me..but I think the timing for me was right. He got to know me, was falling for me..and I told him before we started anything really heavy.

He's met a couple of my closest friends, will meet my birth mom and her husband the Sept long weekend when we go up for a weekend to stay with them, and I will be meeting some of his friends and family soon.

Sorry for the long post...lol..but I just wanted to let people know that there are wonderful, accepting men/women out there. I know I am lucky to have found him..and look forward to our future together. - Linda

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