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A Telling Story with a Twist

We were having a discussion over on the Yahoo group Picking Up the Pieces (PUP) about how to tell somebody about your herpes status. M2 had an interesting way of putting it together and he has allowed me to share that with you here on Yoshi2me.com, Thanks M2!

I generally stick to the technical advice. I'm the world's worst at everything else including how to spring the "talk" on somebody. But do you suppose you might be making too much of this? I don't think I've mentioned this before, but the last time for me was at my new friend's place, I was sitting on her couch watching a football game. The announcers were talking about Michael Vick when she walked up to me with her cat in her arms. I just said, "By the way, have I ever mentioned that I have Genital Herpes?" that's how I brought it up, sorta spur of the moment.

It was kind of funny. Even her cat had an astonished look on his face and I thought she was going to drop him. But they both recovered and she just said, "No, you haven't. I would have remembered. I have it too, can I get you a beer?" I said that sounded great, and as she was walking away, I overheard her telling her cat, "I think that was the easiest talk we've ever given, don't you?" and that was that.

I'm not sure, but I think she was on her way to give me the "talk" but I inadvertently beat her to it. That may be why she was carrying the cat. As a sort of security blanket. And a way of putting me (or anyone else) at ease with it. Almost like saying "How can you be upset with this news, my cat's perfectly *fine* with it". Sorta like using the cat as a decoy or backup or something. Anyhow, I guess there must be a million ways of "telling" somebody. I like an approach that gives 'em the news and at the same time lets them know that you consider it to be no big deal. But that may be because I *do* consider it no big deal. It's the stigma that's the big deal. But I save that explanation for later.


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