A Telling Story with a Twist
We were having a discussion over on the
Yahoo group Picking Up the Pieces (PUP) about how to tell somebody
about your herpes status. M2 had an interesting way of putting it
together and he has allowed me to share that with you here on
Yoshi2me.com, Thanks M2!
I generally stick to the technical
advice. I'm the world's worst at everything else including how to
spring the "talk" on somebody. But do you suppose you might be
making too much of this? I don't think I've mentioned this before,
but the last time for me was at my new friend's place, I was sitting
on her couch watching a football game. The announcers were talking
about Michael Vick when she walked up to me with her cat in her
arms. I just said, "By the way, have I ever mentioned that I have
Genital Herpes?" that's how I brought it up, sorta spur of the
It was kind of funny. Even her cat had
an astonished look on his face and I thought she was going to drop
him. But they both recovered and she just said, "No, you haven't. I
would have remembered. I have it too, can I get you a beer?" I said
that sounded great, and as she was walking away, I overheard her
telling her cat, "I think that was the easiest talk we've ever
given, don't you?" and that was that.
I'm not sure, but I think she was on
her way to give me the "talk" but I inadvertently beat her to it.
That may be why she was carrying the cat. As a sort of security
blanket. And a way of putting me (or anyone else) at ease with it.
Almost like saying "How can you be upset with this news, my cat's
perfectly *fine* with it". Sorta like using the cat as a decoy or
backup or something. Anyhow, I guess there must be a million ways of
"telling" somebody. I like an approach that gives 'em the news and
at the same time lets them know that you consider it to be no big
deal. But that may be because I *do* consider it no big deal. It's
the stigma that's the big deal. But I save that explanation for